a couple tips....no girl out there likes to have her face devoured or slobber all over her. Just go slow and pay attention to how she kisses. We tend to kiss how we, ourselves, like to be kissed, so being in tune with her will go a long way towards making sure she's enjoying it.
I remember eons ago, someone telling me to try your lips on your forearm to get the feeling of light v. firmer sensations so when you kiss another you have an idea of what type of pressure you are or are not applying. Don't know if this is a help or not!
Don't stick your tongue in her looking for her tonsils, keep it out until you get the lip locks down.
see i was decent when i was younger and i met this girl who told me i was horrible... she basically taught me how she liked to be kissed and after i learned that i can basically kiss any girl because i know how to go with the "flow" just practice with your girl if shes nice then she will critique you if shes a bitch she will break up with you but youll get better at it i promise
but it is generally go with the flow, close your eyes (its unromantic to have them open when kissing) and see whats good. Don't 'eat her face' so to speak as that will not be nice, but just see what she does to you, and do it back.
I've been at the game for ten or so years now, and I'm not very good at it. You can only really learn by doing, and even then some people just don't have it. I happen to be one of them. My wife doesn't mind. I personally never found kissing a big deal, but maybe I'm just different.....
when you work your way softly around and on her lips it feels so sweet but also use your tongue flick slowly across her inner upper lip then lean in a bit more and suck on it for a minute (not a literal minute but a few seconds) really take in the feel, soft, tender, warm. Loose your self in this moment. Kissing, it is so sweet and sexy and hot a real treat. I am a kissing freak though. Oddly enough i am into it more now then when i was 15.
When you kiss her, make sure your lips are soft. One problem I have found in many men is that they make their tongue really hard and in a way fight with my tongue. That is not at all pleasing. Make sure that you do it softly and don't tense up. I have had times when kissing a man that I've felt like his tongue was a penis trying to have sex with my mouth.Lol. Don't do that. Be soft and gentle and pay attention to how she moves her tongue. Might be awkward at first, but you'll get it.
Ya as stated above NEVER slobber all over the girl or devour her face....major turn off. Also, as stated above, a girl generally kisses the way she wants to be kissed. But if you have problems figuring that out in the process think of this. Not too little tongue(you should be somewhat, gentley wrestling her tongue) And not too much(you should not be able to reach the back of her throat if you know what I mean).
Watch for signs. If she pulls you closer or pushes harder while kissing it generally means she wants to be kissed harder. If she pulls away abit or seems to be retreating her mouth it mean lighten up. Hope that helped :)
Well stated xkatex, that is one thing that you should really watch for. If she starts to lightly pull away and you find yourself going forward more to kiss her, loosen up. She isn't liking everything that you're doing. ALL men should watch that. I personally like when you're kissing that your tongues in a way melt together. Making sure your tongue is soft and not hard, is very important.
[quote]close your eyes (its unromantic to have them open when kissing)[/quote]
I disagree, actually. When The Boy is kissing my breath away, it makes it all the more thrilling when our eyes lock. It's a sense of complete connection.
Open your eyes. If she's looking back- keep looking.
I think this thread is kind of applicable to me, but I have tried kissing my girlfriend and alot of times it just doesn't work. I'm curious - how is it that when she and I start to kiss, it usually ends up more as a lick?
Start off slow and gentle, and look for a response from her. If she responds favourably, then you can respond to her in turn. Little 'mmm' sounds from her are usually a good sign. Kissing is a kind of dialogue between two people, where each person responds to the other. But whatever you do, don't force yourself on her if she gives you a negative response.
And don't forget to use your hands effectively. From personal experience, I really think that an important part of a good kiss is in the way you hold each other. Hold her firmly but gently with your hand in the small of her back. You should apply just enough pressure to draw her in close to you, but not so much as to be overpowering. Once again, adjust your actions according to her response, and don't go for the big grope. (Unless things have progressed to that stage already!)
I absolutely adore kissing, but it only works well when you manage to establish that dialogue between you.
[QUOTE=Engage!;184719]I've been at the game for ten or so years now, and I'm not very good at it. You can only really learn by doing, and even then some people just don't have it. I happen to be one of them. My wife doesn't mind. I personally never found kissing a big deal, but maybe I'm just different.....[/QUOTE]
Practice makes perfect. It only works well when you each respond to the other. If you kiss someone and it doesn't work well, then its easy to believe that you are not good at it. Don't let yourself believe that. It may just be that you haven't learned how to respond to each other.
Personally, I love kissing, and I do think I've developed a bit of a knack for it over the years. I've been complimented by women on more than a few occasions, so I guess I must be doing something right. To me, kissing just feels like the most natural thing to do. (Well, so much for blowing my own trumpet.)
Having said that, there are still times when it doesn't work, but it doesn't mean that you are a bad kisser.
A good kiss usually means more to a woman than most guys realize. If I absolutely had to choose sex with no kissing or kissing with no sex, I'd pick the latter! Kissing is very connecting.
I have to disagree with some of the people who said don't kiss with a bit of force/roughness. I AGREE its not good for a first kiss, and in a new relationship but over time some women love being kissed rough. I know I do, in fact I kiss pretty rough myself when I'm in that type of mood. You really have to play it by ear, and figure out what your girl likes. Listen to the cues like everyone said, her body language etc. Also, it's a good idea to pull back after a little while and give her a chance to breathe :p when you're new to kissing its hard to figure out how to breathe and kiss!
[quote]I have to disagree with some of the people who said don't kiss with a bit of force/roughness. I AGREE its not good for a first kiss.[/quote]
No one ever told The Boy about that... which worked out just fine, because feeling the pressure and strength with which he captured and claimed my lips with his sent a jolt of electricity straight down my spine and between my thighs. So it can work. I do agree, though, that it's probably not a good idea to try this the first time out, because it can work as a complete turn off.
my advice wud to just relax and it does come natural! she wil take the lead if she knows wha shes doing! if not your in the same boat! jus have fun with it x
[QUOTE=curious_woman;191544]I have to disagree with some of the people who said don't kiss with a bit of force/roughness. I AGREE its not good for a first kiss, and in a new relationship but over time some women love being kissed rough. I know I do, in fact I kiss pretty rough myself when I'm in that type of mood. You really have to play it by ear, and figure out what your girl likes. Listen to the cues like everyone said, her body language etc. Also, it's a good idea to pull back after a little while and give her a chance to breathe :p when you're new to kissing its hard to figure out how to breathe and kiss![/QUOTE]
I agree with you. A bit of roughness can be ok if its what you both want. But its all about the feedback, and its something that you have to work up to. Like I said earlier, kissing means establishing a sort of dialogue between two people where you are each reading the responses of the other person.
I absolutely love being kissed rough, and having my boyfriend's tongue as deep in my throat as it can go (and he has a long tongue, so even better ;) ). And when I grab on to his tongue with my mouth and suck, and we get into that "mouth sex" rhythm, I just lose myself in it. And it just keeps feeling better and better, and I have a "mouthgasm". :p To me, it's every bit as good as sex.
you guys make me wanna kiss my ex girlfriend again lol. the first time we kissed was amazing, i didnt know how to go about it myself but she initiated the kiss and took the lead. after a minute or so i got into the rhythm she had going and it was truly the best kiss i had ever had up to that moment. i hope yours can be just as good and memorable with everybody's helpful advice.
erm difficult question simple answer just do it.
just put you lips together and well go with the flow
a couple tips....no girl out there likes to have her face devoured or slobber all over her. Just go slow and pay attention to how she kisses. We tend to kiss how we, ourselves, like to be kissed, so being in tune with her will go a long way towards making sure she's enjoying it.
I remember eons ago, someone telling me to try your lips on your forearm to get the feeling of light v. firmer sensations so when you kiss another you have an idea of what type of pressure you are or are not applying. Don't know if this is a help or not!
Don't stick your tongue in her looking for her tonsils, keep it out until you get the lip locks down.
A little nibble on the bottom lip when pulling away doesn't hurt. Just enjoy it.
one lip at a time!!!!!!!!!!! absolutly
practice on a mirror..uhhhhhhhh a friend told me that is how she learned!
see i was decent when i was younger and i met this girl who told me i was horrible... she basically taught me how she liked to be kissed and after i learned that i can basically kiss any girl because i know how to go with the "flow" just practice with your girl if shes nice then she will critique you if shes a bitch she will break up with you but youll get better at it i promise
I agree, practice on your arm or something,
but it is generally go with the flow, close your eyes (its unromantic to have them open when kissing) and see whats good. Don't 'eat her face' so to speak as that will not be nice, but just see what she does to you, and do it back.
you don't necessarily have to close your eyes
I've been at the game for ten or so years now, and I'm not very good at it. You can only really learn by doing, and even then some people just don't have it. I happen to be one of them. My wife doesn't mind. I personally never found kissing a big deal, but maybe I'm just different.....
Oh, yeah. And I never understood the closing your eyes thing either.
when you work your way softly around and on her lips it feels so sweet but also use your tongue flick slowly across her inner upper lip then lean in a bit more and suck on it for a minute (not a literal minute but a few seconds) really take in the feel, soft, tender, warm. Loose your self in this moment. Kissing, it is so sweet and sexy and hot a real treat. I am a kissing freak though. Oddly enough i am into it more now then when i was 15.
When you kiss her, make sure your lips are soft. One problem I have found in many men is that they make their tongue really hard and in a way fight with my tongue. That is not at all pleasing. Make sure that you do it softly and don't tense up. I have had times when kissing a man that I've felt like his tongue was a penis trying to have sex with my mouth.Lol. Don't do that. Be soft and gentle and pay attention to how she moves her tongue. Might be awkward at first, but you'll get it.
Moezzy and Summer breaze have said it all, this thread is now closed... Moezzy and Summer Breaze I award you PhD's in kissing.
Ya as stated above NEVER slobber all over the girl or devour her face....major turn off. Also, as stated above, a girl generally kisses the way she wants to be kissed. But if you have problems figuring that out in the process think of this. Not too little tongue(you should be somewhat, gentley wrestling her tongue) And not too much(you should not be able to reach the back of her throat if you know what I mean).
Watch for signs. If she pulls you closer or pushes harder while kissing it generally means she wants to be kissed harder. If she pulls away abit or seems to be retreating her mouth it mean lighten up. Hope that helped :)
Well stated xkatex, that is one thing that you should really watch for. If she starts to lightly pull away and you find yourself going forward more to kiss her, loosen up. She isn't liking everything that you're doing. ALL men should watch that. I personally like when you're kissing that your tongues in a way melt together. Making sure your tongue is soft and not hard, is very important.
[quote]close your eyes (its unromantic to have them open when kissing)[/quote]
I disagree, actually. When The Boy is kissing my breath away, it makes it all the more thrilling when our eyes lock. It's a sense of complete connection.
Open your eyes. If she's looking back- keep looking.
I think this thread is kind of applicable to me, but I have tried kissing my girlfriend and alot of times it just doesn't work. I'm curious - how is it that when she and I start to kiss, it usually ends up more as a lick?
Start off slow and gentle, and look for a response from her. If she responds favourably, then you can respond to her in turn. Little 'mmm' sounds from her are usually a good sign. Kissing is a kind of dialogue between two people, where each person responds to the other. But whatever you do, don't force yourself on her if she gives you a negative response.
And don't forget to use your hands effectively. From personal experience, I really think that an important part of a good kiss is in the way you hold each other. Hold her firmly but gently with your hand in the small of her back. You should apply just enough pressure to draw her in close to you, but not so much as to be overpowering. Once again, adjust your actions according to her response, and don't go for the big grope. (Unless things have progressed to that stage already!)
I absolutely adore kissing, but it only works well when you manage to establish that dialogue between you.
All that I can say is kissing is just icing on the cake of sex and love. Done, that is it, kissing is just something that can be made into beauty.
[QUOTE=Engage!;184719]I've been at the game for ten or so years now, and I'm not very good at it. You can only really learn by doing, and even then some people just don't have it. I happen to be one of them. My wife doesn't mind. I personally never found kissing a big deal, but maybe I'm just different.....[/QUOTE]
Practice makes perfect. It only works well when you each respond to the other. If you kiss someone and it doesn't work well, then its easy to believe that you are not good at it. Don't let yourself believe that. It may just be that you haven't learned how to respond to each other.
Personally, I love kissing, and I do think I've developed a bit of a knack for it over the years. I've been complimented by women on more than a few occasions, so I guess I must be doing something right. To me, kissing just feels like the most natural thing to do. (Well, so much for blowing my own trumpet.)
Having said that, there are still times when it doesn't work, but it doesn't mean that you are a bad kisser.
A good kiss usually means more to a woman than most guys realize. If I absolutely had to choose sex with no kissing or kissing with no sex, I'd pick the latter! Kissing is very connecting.
I'm with you on that, Suki2007. And I'm a guy!
I have to disagree with some of the people who said don't kiss with a bit of force/roughness. I AGREE its not good for a first kiss, and in a new relationship but over time some women love being kissed rough. I know I do, in fact I kiss pretty rough myself when I'm in that type of mood. You really have to play it by ear, and figure out what your girl likes. Listen to the cues like everyone said, her body language etc. Also, it's a good idea to pull back after a little while and give her a chance to breathe :p when you're new to kissing its hard to figure out how to breathe and kiss!
[quote]I have to disagree with some of the people who said don't kiss with a bit of force/roughness. I AGREE its not good for a first kiss.[/quote]
No one ever told The Boy about that... which worked out just fine, because feeling the pressure and strength with which he captured and claimed my lips with his sent a jolt of electricity straight down my spine and between my thighs. So it can work. I do agree, though, that it's probably not a good idea to try this the first time out, because it can work as a complete turn off.
my advice wud to just relax and it does come natural! she wil take the lead if she knows wha shes doing! if not your in the same boat! jus have fun with it x
i find that closing my eyes helps me 'do it', and if i have my eyes open i start think to much about... well about everything
[QUOTE=curious_woman;191544]I have to disagree with some of the people who said don't kiss with a bit of force/roughness. I AGREE its not good for a first kiss, and in a new relationship but over time some women love being kissed rough. I know I do, in fact I kiss pretty rough myself when I'm in that type of mood. You really have to play it by ear, and figure out what your girl likes. Listen to the cues like everyone said, her body language etc. Also, it's a good idea to pull back after a little while and give her a chance to breathe :p when you're new to kissing its hard to figure out how to breathe and kiss![/QUOTE]
I agree with you. A bit of roughness can be ok if its what you both want. But its all about the feedback, and its something that you have to work up to. Like I said earlier, kissing means establishing a sort of dialogue between two people where you are each reading the responses of the other person.
I absolutely love being kissed rough, and having my boyfriend's tongue as deep in my throat as it can go (and he has a long tongue, so even better ;) ). And when I grab on to his tongue with my mouth and suck, and we get into that "mouth sex" rhythm, I just lose myself in it. And it just keeps feeling better and better, and I have a "mouthgasm". :p To me, it's every bit as good as sex.
you guys make me wanna kiss my ex girlfriend again lol. the first time we kissed was amazing, i didnt know how to go about it myself but she initiated the kiss and took the lead. after a minute or so i got into the rhythm she had going and it was truly the best kiss i had ever had up to that moment. i hope yours can be just as good and memorable with everybody's helpful advice.