Great conversation, spontaneity, and willingness to try new things. Be genuine so that he knows you are trustworthy. Spice it up a little to keep things exciting. Men love to feel that they are the only one in the world so show him that you appreciate all of the nice things that he does. Also, don't nag and don't forget that relationships are two way streets....reciprocating his affection is key!

in fact we'd be a much happier gender if we never heard the words "do i look fat" or "am i fat" out of our significant other's mouth. either the answer is obviously no, or we have to lie. vanity doesn't suit most people and i hate lying

adding to what the other people have said, dont be fake, let him hang with his boys, as in dont smother him, and dont ask if your fat every day

Great post here from the men. I always like to know what goes on in your brains.  

vagabondprince I agree that a good sense of humor is important in a relationship. And the questions are good too. There should be a good dialog between the two of you. Your also right that how can someone know they are loved if it is not shown often and freely.

Wally great post! I do know that is what women want and expect out of a relationship. We need to remember that you guys want to be treated in the same manner. By the way I am very happy when I can read your post and I so appreciate the wise advice you are always giving. I hope your life is going good.  

Jaybee I have enjoyed reading your post on the board as well. What I get out of your post the most is the need for honesty and truth. Playing games or keeping things hidden is a huge turn off. You like to know where you stand and prefer not to have the rules changing on you.

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[QUOTE=Quote ]Then  I ask my bf that, his answer is "Sane". Aside from that, what he liked about me was that he could trust me, I would make him smile and I wasn't an airhead. I would think that would be appelaing to any guy.[/QUOTE]

Many a true word spoken in jest.   Probably the second greatest turn OFF for a guy, behind sheer lack of physical appeal, is irrationality.  Probably because we can deal with the male variety, and can cure it with simple knowledge, but are mystified by the female type.

For example, my last girlfriend assured me, profusely, that she would call me when she wanted me, and not bother me with text messages, as the previous one did, and would NEVER demand that I send her one.  In the beginning, she kept her word, and called me about twice a day, which I enjoyed, even though I had a frenetic schedule.

6 weeks later, she got tipsy with her (female) colleagues, and doubtless there was some kind of one-upwomanship going on about who had the most loyal boyfriend.  She sent me a text message proclaiming her undying love, I was 'the one for life', blah blah blah, shortly followed by a...

...you guessed it!

'Plz txt me back!!'

Followed 10 minutes later by

'If u luv me u'll send me a txt!'

Followed after an hour of me keeping my fingers very much off my keypad by,

'At least now I no how u really feel about me'.

We split up a few weeks later, to my great relief.  She took it surprisingly well, again to my relief.

But back on topic, be consistent, be rational.  Say what you mean, and mean what you say.  If you feel the need to be an airhead, we can deal with it, as long as you don't jump overboard.  

Don't brag about your judiciousness in financial matters on Friday night, and then excuse your purchase, with OUR credit card, of a pair of Blahnik's the following morning with, "I couldn't help it!".  That's pretty much all we ask of you as men.  If you're a sucker for shoes, let us know in advance.   If you're a secret smoker, come clean.  If we know about it, we can deal with it.

Don't get me wrong; we men sometimes act on the spur of the moment to new stuff, we men like surprises as much as you do, but when the unpleasant surprise becomes the rule and not the exception, we get nervous, wondering what else is going to go wrong.

Say what you mean, and mean what you say.  Everyone likes to know where they stand.

Jaybee.

i have to second wally's opinion....give him some attention and let him know that he's loved. sometimes it's not so obvious that the love is there if it's not shown

I think it's important to not take him for granted. Sometimes it's that simple: if you're interested in him; he'll be interested in you! Appreciate what he does and says... be glad to see him... make him feel important and loved and try to understand him and what's going on in his life.

my girlfriend likes to be ornery and sarcastic sometimes, and jokes around a lot. she also has a habit of playing the twenty questions game....asking just random questions. it keeps me happily occupied. I also enjoy simply sharing my life with someone, and having someone to hold. it's either that or there's something about her like there was something about mary. i just like her (well, i actually love her but whatever)

i honestly don't know what attracted my guy to me. i don't.
we've never discussed it.
i just know he told me he found me attractive one day and i laughed and shrugged it off and he said he was serious and found me very attractive.
and i never did anything but be myself, so yea, i guess be yourself. guys (like most people) can usually tell when a girl is being fake just to get attention and to get someone to like her.

Then I ask my bf that, his answer is "Sane". Aside from that, what he liked about me was that he could trust me, I would make him smile and I wasn't an airhead. I would think that would be appelaing to any guy.