I have a very hetero-minded g/f and I would like for her to insert her fingers into my anus while I cum. But how do I ask her to do this when she is so bloody hetero-minded? I'm afraid she might get turned-off. We've been together a long, long time and I've never said anything to her about it. We have a great sex life and relationship and I wouldn't want this to affect it. Any suggestions out there?
Whar does "hetero-" have to do with it? She is a she and you are a he. Ask her.
Ya know , my husband just came straight out and asked me. Now keep in mind I'm not a "butt" person...but he said it would make things more pleasurable so I do.
Maybe she will too.
Just ask.
Thats all it took for me.
Live life.
Good luck.
I'm going to have to go with Brandye and Juno here--ask her. You aren't going to be able to change her mind without understanding the reasons for her position on this, and only she can tell you what those reasons are.
My best guess is that she is worried about the cleanliness factor. She may be more comfortable if you suggest using a latex glove or a finger-condom. However, before you suggest this ask her--she may have a completely different objection, in which case a different solution is in order.
[QUOTE=Quote ]hetero-minded[/QUOTE]
Huh? Please explain.
Hetero-minded:
To be dominated by gender specific constructions of identity.
And, almost forgot, to attach specific acts to specific stereotypes, like seeing male self-interest in anal stimulation as "Homosexual Male" behaviour.
Thanks for the suggestions.
Also, I always keep 'em squeeky clean.