Hi, I'm a guy and I have a long distance relationship with this amazing girl. She tells me she gets horny really easily and we've had phone sex for the past 2 weeks. We've been only together for a month and lately she hasn't been getting as turned on as she usually gets. Maybe it's due to the recent fight we had which was already resolved. I don't know. Help?
Wed, 05/25/2011 - 03:27
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How to get her aroused
You have been having phone sex for 2 weeks and she isn't getting as turned on as usual? Holy cow stop the presse :rolleyes:
You have two options.
Dump her and find a gf who lives near you that you can physically see and touch fairly often.
Or
Stop worrying about something that as of this moment is insignificant. Its been 2 weeks out of a month relationship. Maybe you caught her in a good mood one night and everything was perfect. Maybe your just doing a crappy job. Maybe she isn't fullfilling her part (an orgasm is her job). If this was a "las 6 months out of a 6 year relationship" that's one thing. But half of your entire relationship, even though it sounds huge, isn't much conisdering it is 1 month. If this continues on for another month or so then follow my other "option" which in all honesty should be your first choice.
I'm following the second option. True someone I can see physically would be swell, but maybe you're right I did catch her on a good mood. I asked her and she says that she's had troubles with her friends and things. I do love her a lot and I don't plan on giving her up any time soon. Thanks for your help!
No problemo
aside from what's already been said, you mention that you two had a fight and that's it's been resolved - but how can you really be sure it's completely resolved ... in my experience us guys are much quicker to resolve and move on from a fight or conflict, whereas she might still be hanging to a little residual hard feelings. You've only known her a few weeks and that's usually when things are going great. There's a decent chance that she's thinking that the fun part is done and over and she may be ready to move on since you aren't close enough for an in person relationship.
Also, don't expect to be able to just jump right into a dirty conversation with her at this point.
Be a friend, but drop subtle dirty hints and inuendo that let her know that you still think of her that way and let things go where they will.
Excuse me, but you're NOT in love with her - you're INFATUATED with her - there is a huge difference. Your anxiety regarding the relationship proves this is infatuation. The small amount of time spent as yet in this relationship proves it is NOT love. The fact that you have had a fight this soon into the relationship also proves this is infatuation and not love.
But the biggest issue is you two have NOT met in the flesh - and you cannot love anyone you haven't met IRL. So far, you're just 'in love with the joy that some girl is talking to you'. Nothing more.
My advice is to CHILL OUT, RELAX and just carry on being a friendly male voice on the end of the phone line.
Will you PLEASE start reading before you post. That advice is completely useless...he can't get her aroused. If the normally kissing touching isn't gonna help how will "horny talk and touche herin hot place" work.
I can't put an oil fire out with water what do I do?
Just be using water to put it out.
See my point? Utterly useless advice.
[QUOTE=CollierAlda1;270818]just make some horny Talk with her and touch her at hot points then she will get soon aroused.[/QUOTE]
This is what the original poster wrote:
"I'm a guy and I have a long distance relationship with this amazing girl. She tells me she gets horny really easily and we've had phone sex for the past 2 weeks."
Please tell us how your suggestion will work when the two of them are living many miles/kilometers apart and talking on the telephone?
"Talk with her and touch her at hot points then she will get soon aroused."
Please stop replying to posts until you have read and understood the question or problem.
Please stop replying to posts until you have answers relevant to the problem.
Thanks,
-doc
> ...we've had phone sex for the past 2 weeks. We've been only together for a month and lately she hasn't been getting as turned on as she usually gets.
Nutsforbrains, do you know what part of her monthly cycle she is in? Have you considered this as a likely reason?
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just make some horny Talk with her and touch her at hot points then she will get soon aroused.