A few years ago my girlfriend was pretty forward in bed. She often told me she wanted to tie me up and that she even planned to buy some handcuffs.
Time went bye and nothing happened. We just had the same old sex over and over. I then bought her some sexy gifts. A blindfold, a vibrator and of course the handcuffs. I introduced them successfully and we had some fun.
Since then she has only used the cuffs on me one time, and that time I asked her to which is not as fun as if she would be the one bringing them out.
We have sex but its like on routine. What happened with her earlier style and why wont she initiate tying me up like before. On top of this she says that she gets turned of when I tell her I liked her a bit aggressive.
I have tried many times to initiate different things we can do out of the routine, and its not just for sex. I have often given her foot massages, bubble baths, full body massages etc...
How can I get her to be adventurous again?
Ask her and tell her what you would like. It's part of keeping it interesting. Perhaps she is just uncomfortable with the whole bondage thing. Sounds as if you are missing communication in the relationship.
well you introduce them into the sex life. and then see how she takes it
I dont think she is uncomfortable with it really as long as I am the one being tied up. We tried it on her once or twice but she has some control issue and can not handle it.
Its now over a year since we used the toys and since its almost always me who suggests using them I took them all away from our drawer at the end of last summer to see how long it would take for her to notice. We bought some new furnitures to the bedroom a month ago and not until then she noticed it and asked me "where the handcuffs where". I told her that I had put them and the other toys away because we never uses them and that I didnt like them for "public display". She first looked a little dissaponted for my action but she took the hint I guess cause the other day she sugested that we instead of the drawer now could "make" a box to have the toys in.
How should I respond to this? Should I bring out the toys again, I mean we never uses them anyway.