I have some complex problems with sex. i've only had sex twice in my life. now what's causing a problem is i'm wheelchair bound and have reduced feeling in that area so i can't enjoy intercourse as much as i could before i became like this. that's the first half of my problem. my other problem is that i still really enjoy being intimate with my boyfriend and most often opt to give him head. the issue with that is i like doing that a lot. if i had my way i would do it at least once a day but he doesn't feel the same. he enjoys it but i tire him out too easy. even when we do it i still want to keep going after he cums. i would like to do things with him more often or at least find ways to get more enjoyment out of things as they are now. even though i love doings these things with him i'm still a bit shy about saying these things to him cause i don't want him to think i'm sex-crazed, i just really enjoy making him feel good. what should i do?
Wed, 01/14/2009 - 11:17
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how to enjoy sex from a wheelchair?
Since YOUR MD knows your condition and the extent of your abilities [or lack of]; discuss this with the doctor.
Since we do not see you how would we even begin to comment, stop & think about it?
Sweetie, the problem is not in your body - its in your head. So what if he thinks you're "sex-crazed"? Most men would be over-joyed to find a woman who enjoys sex as much as they do.
Stop being silent. Start investigating. Begin as sera has said by consulting your doctor(s) on this topic. Do not be shy - that's what they are there for - to provide answers and assistance. Next - TALK TO YOUR BOYFRIEND.
I know you do not want to but you can see that you must. Ask him if he's willing to explore with you. "Let's see what we can get up to." Make a game out of it. Laugh, hun, laugh and have fun with this. So you can't do Naked Twister - play Naked Monopoly instead then. Open up to the possibilities and the answers will be there.
Do you see?
Thankyou for posting this. I have a thread going (that needs update from me) on sex for a handicapped man. A week or so ago a male victim of spinal injury posted a question. We need the female side. We are still women whether in a wheel chair or not and our sexual parts work and enjoy pretty much like our sisters.
As stated, start with your doctor. Pregnancy could be disastrous and the doctor should both advise you and help you protect yourself. It was common is bygone years to perform "sanitary hysteroctomies" for women with disabilites. Especially common with Downs' Syndrome. The idea was that this lifted the burden of dealin with the menses; the reall message was this will keep you from getting pregnant. I am not advocating this; merely pointing out that some women still want this to be absolutely certain that pregnancy does not occur.
If sex is ok, according to your doctor, a position must be found. We women have the advantage of enjoying penetration no matter what it leads to; there is great satisfaction in holding a penis in us and receiving the little offering it leaves behind. A position I like and I have recommended to pregnant women in their third trimester and wome with limited mobility is to lie on your back with your knees draped over your partner who is lying crosswise. It places no pressure on any part of your body and, after entry, each of you has complete access to all the erogenous parts of either of you.
With this a base, follow Evil's advice -explore, explore, explore. You are a woman and you have something coming to you (and in you!). Get it any way that it works.