Me and my girl are about ready to have sex for the first time (we are both virgins), and I really want it to be a memorable night for her. As a guy who has masturbated quite a bit, I know that I don't last long and that after orgasm I can pretty much call it quits because I can't do anything.
How can I prolong our experience so that it lasts longer than 15 seconds? I want to spend the entire night making love to my girl and pleasuring her...but I'm just so worried that I will go off too soon out of the excitement of it all and that'll be the end of it. I REALLY don't want that to be her first sexual experience.
Any advice or tips on the kinds of things I can do to make the night longer?
well if it is your first time for both of you it is best that you do NOT go "entire night"
do you think you have a problem with premature ejaculation?
if you look around the site you will find that most women will get sore and bored within 20 minutes. as it is your first time for both of you it is important to go slow and gental and pay attention to her reactions it maybe she wont be able to go that long at all maybe half or a quarter of this. and after it all make sure there is plenty of cuddling and caressing. as long as you do all this and are the perfect gentleman it will be a plesant memorable time for her. all so it may be a good idea if give her a massage with sensual oils and perform oral and finger her before having sex this will help relax and calm both of you.
good luck
first of all, always wear a condom, it will help you last a bit longer, but still it is like an unspoken truth that no one lasts long the first ( few) times. I hope you are in a relationship where she will understand that
Please read my contribution made earlier to the following thread:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_her/17562-path_orgasm.html
Do an advanced search using my name and the terms:
P E or PE
Premature Ejaculation
Exercise
to learn more about gaining control.
Also, do a search on the Squeeze technique.
> after orgasm I can pretty much call it quits because I can't do anything.
Actually...you can do more, it's just that you have to wait about 20-30 minutes. It takes our bodies about that long to reset. The fairer gender can go again in a matter of moments. These additional climaxes are called "Multiple Orgasms". Gals can usually enjoy many in a row, whereas, guys are pretty much limited to one or two additional ones. Multiples are one way to pull an all nighter.
It is rare for a couple's first time to be perfect. Expect that things will happen and just do not get all up tight or make a big deal out of it. It takes time and practice. Making love is a partnership and requires that the two of you work together and learn together. Simply enjoy each other and the moment. It is this that will make the experience pleasurable.
ok, as you've gathered your not going to pull an all nighter! iv been having sex for a good few years and i have still to acomplish this! my first time... the whole few minutes was great! we done foreplay before we had sex which i though helped a whole bunch... she gave me a bj first then gave her oral, this gave my troops time to reform and get ready to go! im not sure if you have noticed or even experienced, but when you have ejaculated the first time, the second time wont happen as fast which will give you a full few more minutes ;)
But the best advice anyone could give would be to relax and feel comfortable! Getting yourself into a panic or worrying about it wont help! hope it oges well :D
Thanks for all the tips! I will take them into consideration.
But I think I was mis-understood by what I meant by "All Nighter." I don't mean having sex all night, I just meant being able to keep a romantic mood all night. I'm sure both of us will be tired after a while, but I want her to feel loved and appreciated the entire night...I guess what I wanna know is, what should I do so that A) I don't fall asleep! and B) so that we don't get bored
Any more tips? Again, thanks for all the advice in advance. =)
Not going to happen. Neither one of you knows what is going to happen and I can assure you that your g/f, after a few hours, will want some self-time to sort things out. You are seeking a marriage night. Those are usually disasters, also, especially if both are non-experienced.
Talk it out with her; decide on a whether or not and enjoy what can be enjoyed. The first time is rarely a romantic experience for anyone. Another fairy tale to keep people in line and raise expectations to unreasonable heights.
talk mr pencil pimp... you should just talk! :) eventually youll both get tired as you do, but after you should talk, lighten the mood and just relax... do the the hugging and stuff ;)
I'm sure that we'll get tired and fall asleep after a while...it's human nature I guess. Is it possible to have sex multiple times a night though? Do you think girls like having sex multiple times a night? Or do they prefer doing it once, for a long period of time?
I would say that they like going multiple times as apposed to one long period
i personally would rather have multiple times instead of lasting for a long time. i think that might be a common myth that women want to have sex for hours, because a lot of the time, it's physically can't happen. women can get dry after a period of time, and if that happens, it can become very painful.
I think I posted this just like 2 seconds ago in a different thread, but my personal experience says, "Yes it is possible to have sex multiple times a night."
The first time though, will not be Perfect, although it doesn't hurt to try and Make it perfect. Just do your best with what God gave ya, and put your back into it!
Then after... *cough*, just rest like 30 minutes and I garantee you, you will probably be ready for a second go.
Dude, you seem like a commited guy and thats good, just one thing, if you want to make it memorable, dont hurt her! i know the first time for her will hurt a little, but dont let your male hormones take over and just **** her like crazy as this may cause a little pain, also to make it memorable, dont have make love to her just to get laid, make sure its because you love her and she loves you, it will make everything seem magical.