I have had a bad experience once with anal sex and the man of my life (my bf) wants to do it and im so scared its not funny. When ever he mentions it or tries to do something near there i freak out so bad. I want to do anal but im scared to. He is gentle with everything that he does he is bi-sexual so he has done anal on a few newbies, he says if its done right it wont hurt i trust him but i dont trust my body im so scared someone please help me!!!!!!
Sat, 07/07/2007 - 16:45
#1
How Do You Over Come Anal Sex?
As we gain experience with sex, we each find that we have some limits. Some women cannot learn oral; some, anal; some choose to not even allow vaginal sex. You may have found something that you choose not to tolerate. There are many threads here on anal sex. Do a search and read some ideas both ways. My objection to anal penetration by a penis is well documents. Those who enjoy anal sex are also well represented.
If you do choose to try, please always use a condom for anal sex. With a bi- b/f this is even more important although I recommend this to everyone. Incidentally, I have nothing against bi-sexuality; I am actively bi- myself. Anal is not in my bag of tricks although I do enjoy anal stimulation.
Here is a copy of a post from two days ago.
"Many people (men and women) who enjoy anal play, enjoy it as an adjunct to other caresses and do not want, need, or enjoy having a penis inserted--only a finger or toy. Even at that, because the outside of the anus is richly endowed with lots of sensitive nerve endings, it is not necessary to go inside. If one wants to involve the passageway and sphincters, also, then a finger can be inserted up to the first knuckle.
Please read this Sticky Post on the subject for more information.
"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
Although primarily written about men, the how-to and when information is relevant for the fairer gender as well.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?"