how do you mend a broken heart???
been askin that question to myself the past couple of days! do you jump straight back in?? do you give yourself time and space?? and what happens if neither option works, if you just keep feelin worse and worse??
i have just came out of a short but very sweet relationship, i feel for the girl big time, and so did she! things were amazin but happenin fast! maybe abit too fast to be honest, but we both seemed to likin where it was goin! then out of the blue she ended it! i didnt know what to do, and to be honest still dont, really hit me for six! what makes things worse is the fact that she says she loves me, and is gutted its over, and i just cant figure it out!!
now im havin all these feelings that i cant seem to get rid off, i cant get her out of my head, i feel gutted bout it all!! but im also feelin frustrated at myself for feeling like this, specially when i think about how long we were together ( really wasnt that long!)!!!
Tue, 02/07/2006 - 10:53
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how do you mend a broken heart???!!
You need to take time to adjust and deal with what's happened before you jump in again (unless you're after quick flings) Rebounds very rarely work out longterm - you might for example still be mentally comparing every girl to her, instead of seeing their own personalities for what they as individuals are. I had a girl who played real evil mind games with me when I was 18 and she destroyed me mentally. It took time, and only really went away when I met someone special and that was when I was 21. I'm not saying it will take that long, but you owe it to yourself and the women you're with to be sure in your own mind why you are with them. But the trick is just to tell yourself that it can't hurt you anymore and that pain will go away if you let it.
i know your right but feel like i dont want to adjust, and to be honest its drivin me mad!! all i can think about is that we can get back together and things will be great again!! even though it'll probly never happen! we've spoke about things and she seems confused! like she doesn't know what she wants, she said she was angry with herself for ending " something great" has felt rubbish since! she also keeps syain we can meet up and changing her mind at the last minute, saying its not a good idea, then she'll do it again a day or so later!! its really messin me up because of how i feel for her!!
but writing here about how i feel and hearing feed back has made things abit easier as its always an outside opinion! so thanks!!!
Always helped me to know I wasn't alone and that people recover in time. The fact that she can't decide what to do doesn't help you - I would suggest trying to establish a relationship as more platonic, then at least you can still talk to each other. But don't approach it as trying to establish another love relationship just take each day as it comes. You can never have enough friends.
You mend a broken heart with lost of superglue, a lot of time to focus on yourself, distance from the object of your desire and a hobby or two
You mend it with some superglue, lots of time for yourself, a big distance between you and the object of your desires, and a hobby or two