I am a bi-female, who has been looking to find another bi-female to join me and my b/f, kind of like a treat, per se... but every time I ask, they are like, I would just be a plaything, and what I really want is a relationship with you... blah, blah, blah... I am in a great relationship with him, I just like spice, and variety is the spice of life!!!! So, how do I go about asking without being offensive?:confused:
Wed, 12/24/2008 - 23:20
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How do you go about finding a woman to join you and your man?
You may want to begin with clarifying your desire. Is this for you - so you can be the center of attention or is this for your boyfriend - so he can be the center of attention? Or will both of you make her the center of attention?
The ladies you have been asking are getting the impression that they and their desires are NOT respected, and so am I with your inclusion of "blah blah blah".
You have a great relationship wth your boyfriend - wonderful, congrats and all that but perhaps you'd have better luck if you dropped the "one guy is enough" attitude and hunted for this bi-femme together with a more open attitude and stop treating them like some accesory - like a bangle bracelet from the Dollar Store's bargain bin.
Face it, she can choose from amoung many prospective couples - why should she choose you?
When you consider the other person's viewpoint - you tend to find the answer to your questions.
Research and field testing suggests if you use the pickup line 'Wanna fuck?' in a club or pub, one in 20 girls will say yes. It is just a matter of keep trying until you hit one that agrees. But it definitely helps if you want to make her the centre of attention, and do so for a while, may even make her come back after the first time.