i have tried and tried and i just cant do it, i dontknow how you are meant to move up and down and get clit contact and all that stuff, i have tried for years now and i give up he stil get s to do the moving around and i have to hold on top him when hes under me or not a lot of anything is going on and then he goes limp what am i doing wrong please
Tue, 07/22/2008 - 14:54
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how do you do woman on top
yeah this is what he has always done, but i just only feel him going inand out again nothing else other than that and certainly no contact with my clit at all then
The up and down thing is difficult for many women and I find that while it looks cool on video in real life it is not so great. What I have found is that both I and my partner enjoy woman on top better if she moves to and fro or grinds round and round rather than trying to ride up and down
My personal experience and preference. There are several woman on top animated instructions on this site. Maybe if you look those over, read how they work and try them you will find something that works for you. And if you just can't find anything that does it doesn't necessarily mean you are doing anything wrong; it might just mean that it doesn't work for you and your partner.
Which part are you having trouble with? Actual entry, or the act of doing it?
If you lean over and almost lay your chest on his that will help with both pumping and the clit. Or lean over still upright but resting one hand on the bed to support your weight, have him help lift you with his hands at your waist, and you use the hand you're not leaning on to manually get your clit.
Yeah more grinding... less bouncy.
Did you check out the main page and the index of sex positions on this site? They are animated and might be helpful.
no the entry is ok i can do that, its the restof it i have trouble doing. yes i have seen the animated parts on here and thats what i try to do, but how the heck do you move? other than going up and down on him that is. i end up with him inside me, and me leaning down on his chest and him doing the moving and me hanging on til he is done, its like riding a horse on full gallop and being ready for jumping the hedges!!!
i dont understand how you get any clit contact as theres enough room to park a bus when like that, and although hes tried rubbing my clit when im on top he complains that he can twist his hand around that far so he gives up, so still nothing happens at all and then i get sick of it and he goes soft on me then,
oh and what is grinding?
Are either of you overweight? Excess tissue can block proper contact.
The easiest way to describe grinding is probably to just have you youtube it. If you don't, you want to be as far down on him as possible, leaning forward to angle your clit more towards him, then circling your hips around so your clit rubs on him and your vagina rubs around him. It helps quite abit if you're sufficiently turned on to be spasming inside, or if you consciously squeeze him.
Another way to get maximum contact is to make sure that knees are high and pointing upwards like you're squatting on your feet. You should not be on your knees.
A good exercise for this would be to sit on a large exercise ball and keep your upper body stationary while rolling your hips around.
[QUOTE=funinthesun;219641]Are either of you overweight? Excess tissue can block proper contact. neither of us is overweight
The easiest way to describe grinding is probably to just have you youtube it. If you don't, you want to be as far down on him as possible, leaning forward to angle your clit more towards him, then circling your hips around so your clit rubs on him and your vagina rubs around him. It helps quite abit if you're sufficiently turned on to be spasming inside, or if you consciously squeeze him.
i hae leant over so much that im laid flat on him and still it gets no contact, spasming? i cant do the squeeze when hes inside me tho
Another way to get maximum contact is to make sure that knees are high and pointing upwards like you're squatting on your feet. You should not be on your knees. but thats what i have always been told that you sit on your knees and shins doing this, is that wrong then?
A good exercise for this would be to sit on a large exercise ball and keep your upper body stationary while rolling your hips around.[/QUOTE] i cant do that either
What seems to be the reason you can't do it though? Does he fall out? Or you just get on, and don't know what to do?
If you have no problem with the penetration, its really just a matter of rocking your hips and maybe bouncing your butt.
right i get on top and get him in and then im lost for what to do, so i try going up and down but that kills my legs after about a dozen times, but i stop to get my breath and then he goes soft on my and thats it we have to stop then as im that bad at what we are trying to do, if i dont try bouncing on him up and down and lean forward i dont know what to do again and just hang on like a horse on full gallop trying not to fall off he does all the work then so once hes cum thats it finnished, so what or how is this meant to be so damm good for a woman for then if both ways it s met with the same thing nothingness yet again.
I like to be on top because it gives me the control, when my boyfriends inside me and i'm ontop i can get it to rub up my G spot which feels amazing!, he prefers me on top to, but we both ork together, we dont leave each other to do all thw work or it's just boring.
rub your g spot !!! how? god i cant even get any contact with my clit!!!!
If you get tired after about a dozen times, maybe you should work on your leg muscles a little bit. And when you get tired, instead of just sittting there to take a break try rocking your hips doing the grind technique we were talking about. It doesn't take much effort. If he starts to go soft, talk dirty or somthing, keep him in the mood!
[QUOTE=orgasmless;219676]rub your g spot !!! how? god i cant even get any contact with my clit!!!![/QUOTE]
Alot of practise but once you know your whole body like the back of your hand you can use everything to your advantage. and a penis is so easy to direct into the right area once you know how. That's why i love to be ontop.
I don't go up and down b/c yes that kills your legs. What I do is if I need to... I'll kind of spread my vagina lips so that my clit is more exposed and then press up against him. While grinding... our bodies don't really separate from each other.
I sometimes lay on his chest but usually I'll just hold myself up w/ my arms...hands on either side of his head.
The motion is more of a front to back than an up/down if that makes sense.
And yes for the most part all us women were kinda clueless the first time we got on top. I just remember climbing on... him entering...and then from there... just moving my hips up/down/front/back until I found a rhythm that felt good.
god i have lost count the number of times i have tried doing this and its met with the same outcome everytime, i simply cannot get any contact other than his dick being inside me and its only that bit around the entrance of him that touches me, no matter where i place the rest of my body no matter how i manage to move, i have no idea what or how to grind is, to be honest i feel such an idiot when on top of him as i dont have a single reason for doing it other than to give him a break, i.e. hes lying on his back but he still ends up doing the moving anyway so i guess even then its not having a break as such, i was one on top of him and going up and down i hadnt even realised that he had come out of me and 10 mins later he stopped me and told me what had happened!!! i just got off and got under the covers and went to sleep then and that was the end of that for the night
People there are medical issues (her hip joints) involved with this woman.
She really is incapable of moving to her best advantage. We're working on solutions elsewhere.
Sorry... I missed that if it was said that her hips were medically unable to move a certain way.... if that is the case.... then girl on top just might be one of those positions she can't do... so move on and try 1 of the MANY other ones out there.
If I can't do one... or don't enjoy one position... I don't stress... just try something different! :)
none of them do a dam thing for me tho its all for him every single time
So is the real problem that you don't feel any pleasure in sex then?
nope other than im doing something that makes him happy
Hmm, maybe you should see a doc?
what you can try is to lean foward holding your self up with your arms and tell him to hump up into you
Once he's inside you, move the way you want, moving sideways, back and forth etc. I think it might be your mate that causes you to loose your mood in it. Try and talk to him, tell him to let you do what u want first. Try and use his penis to find your g-spot. Once you found it, move your body the way that satisfies your g-spot the most. The up and down thing is only done by people who are used to it. At first, I did grinding first which is moving back and forth. After a while, I was able to do well with up and down. You don't know the basics yet, what you're doing now is like learning to run before you can walk. Try moving your hips front and back or in circular motion first.