That's the most difficult part of a relationship is asking for sex. Sometimes it's easy to ask for it and sometimes it's very difficult. It depends on the person.
Like when I start dating a new woman, I know I'm not going to ask for sex right away, I'm just going to wait until I'm totally in love with her. Because I rather have sex with a person I know well and someone who I truly love.
But what is the most appropriate way to ask? Besides the obvious "Do you want to have sex?", that question may scare her off.
I'm not an ugly looking guy or anything. I've heard from women that I was cute and good looking.
I've seen many posts in here, that people getting sex like crazy and I was just wondering how you get into it.
Any advice is appreciated.
[QUOTE=Quote (Rawbob @ July 06 2004,14:03)]"Whenever you are ready, i want to make passionate love to you."[/QUOTE]
I like that one better. She'll definitely go crazy over that one if I say that.
But I won't say it to her right away.
Only if we start dating after a while and if we're alone talking and flirting with each other, then I'll say it.
Even if we don't make passionate love after I say it, she'll be flattered and say something like "Maybe one day we will" with a smile on her face.
It'll definitely let her know that I have confidence around her if I say that. She'll think it's romantic.
And just for the record, I don't want this woman just for sex. I want to be in a serious relationship with her like a best friend or something. I like her personality a lot. She's a great fun person to talk to. Bright woman. I'm hoping one day that I'll be married to this woman but only time will tell....
Assuming you are, as you said u wanted to be, in love with this person, there are several ways to let her know.
During an intimate moment, say "I can't wait to be totally with you"
or
"I can't wait to be inside you"
or
"Whenever you are ready, i want to make passionate love to you."
Wait!!! Time out. You telling me to slow things down and yet you go ahead and say that these people aren't gonig to slow down because this is a sex board? Make up your mind.
I'm confused.
If you knew that not asking and building it up was the way to go, then why did you ask the question.....
[QUOTE=Quote (thetease13 @ July 05 2004,15:42)]I'm confused.
If you knew that not asking and building it up was the way to go, then why did you ask the question.....[/QUOTE]
Probably because this thread is also good advice for those mindless teenagers who don't know anything about sex and want it right away without any knowledgement about it. Not just for me.
As I said, it all depends on the person. There are nymphotic women out there who enjoys sex and will have sex to any guy who is very attractive.
Not all guys and girls will slow things down and build right up.
Some people just enjoy sex no matter who it is.
[QUOTE=Quote (Greendale @ July 05 2004,16:59)]There are nymphotic women out there who enjoys sex and will have sex to any guy who is very attractive.
Some people just enjoy sex no matter who it is.[/QUOTE]
yeah but that doesn't really have much to do w/ the topic.
if anything, THEY would be the ones doing the asking. lol
like hookers.
if they were interested in it, wouldn't they be the ones asking the question?
and really, if they're not going to read the 9000 topics on "am i big enough" why in the world would they read this topic?
they're not going to "slow it down"
slowing it down is not an option for most people that ask questions on this forum.
I think it would be funny if I was dating someone and he was like "wanna have sex?".
They would definitely need to build up to it for me. If they just asked while we were sitting there watching a movie or something, I would start laughing.
Usually for me, the making out sessions start involving less and less clothes until...
Exactly, sex just sometimes happen like when a couple is talking to each other alone, they start french kissing for absolutely no reason, and then they take it from there.
But if I wanted sex right away, I can always go hire a prostitute or have a one night stand with some drunk woman at a party, but I was never that type of guy.
I'm the type of guy that likes to slow things down and build up.
[QUOTE=Quote (thetease13 @ July 04 2004,20:46)]the best way? not asking.[/QUOTE]
That's great advice, just wait until your partner wants it and then go for it.
I think once you are to the point that you are in love with the person you want to have sex with then you should feel comfortable enough saying anthing to each other.
Now that don't mean you be crude and say "Wanna do it." I would think that during a session of closeness and making out it would be natural for you to tell her that you want to make love to her. She will give some kind of response to that letting you know what to say or do from there. Body language is often more powerful then words. Learn to read hers.
Then once you have been married as long as I have you can then just say "wanna do it"
it is actually great advice.
you don't just sit there and as your partner "hey, you wanna have sex?"
that's very cheap sounding to me and i wouldn't be surprised if she smacked you upside the head for it.
the best way? not asking.