There are exercises you can do too gain more control over them. For example hanging a wet flannel over your erect penis and try too lift it up and down in a controlled manner by squeezing and contracting. 10 a day will strengthen the muscles but dont over do it! Move the flannel closer too the tip too make it harder.

Also there is another you can do while peeing. A few times a day while peeing, stop the flow of urine for a few seconds. Do this several times per trip too the toilet.

If you do those, you should have better control of your orgasms, and as some people claim more powerful orgasms.

Kegel exercises:

http://www.caitlainscorner.com/13/sex/sex_kegels.html

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> 1. after like 3-5secs i cant hold it

Works that way for me, also. Must be normal.

> 2. i sometimes lose the erection in the process

These erections do tend to wax and wane for no apparent reason.

> 3. when i exhale i lose control and i cant hold or squeeze

Not sure what you mean or what to make of this.

> 4. i feel my ass squeezed sometimes.. like im not flexing it but i can feel it tightening there

Works that way for me. Exercising the PC muscles is done in just the same way you do when you interrupt the flow of urine when peeing. You can practice this exercise thus strengthing it while urinating, or, when ordinarily standing or sitting and not. Tightening the PC muscle will cause your penis to twitch and your cheeks to feel like they are contracting slightly. There must be some connectivity between all. Dunno my physiology all that well.

> 5. sometimes by accident i hold my breath and afterwards i feel it in my abs sorta

...what? When?

> can u guys help me?!?

Building up the PC muscle will definitely enhance an orgasm. Brandye and I favor two other methods. Her's is the Squeeze Technique that you can learn more about by doing a GOOGLE search.

Mine is a training exercise you and your partner can do over the course of a few sessions/weeks. I just described it again earlier today:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing_him/18562-he_so_darn_fast.html

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> anyways im attempting this and should i be feeling anything like near my ass.. its weird i feel something around there when i stop squeezing

If you mean your cheeks, asked and answered. If you mean your anus or some other area, it must just be the way you are "wired". Do not be concerned.

> 1.during sex i feel a very sensitive feeling on the head of my penis which makes me cum faster.. how can i make it normal?

Literally, do not become as aroused. I'll just bet this does not happen when you take matters into your own hand while home alone. That it does when in the company of a person you have an emotional connection with just goes to show how much more strongly we become aroused. It's called "Animal Magnetism" and fueled by Pheromones.

> 2.when im getting a handjob i can last very long but when i have sex i go 100times faster..how can i go as long as i last during a handjob in sex?

Use either or both of the methods Brandye and I favor. Learn by way of the exercise how to gain a handle on your feelings and how to associate particular sensations with a pending climax at a benchmark along your arousal curve where you can stop and not not coast beyond loosing control and having an orgasm.

The most common reason you can last a long time when receiving a hand job is because as stimulating and intensely enjoyable as it is the technique employed is not what you have come to rely upon over the years to bring about your orgasm. This is why I encourage each partner to demonstrate to the other how s/he masturbates and then to take their hand and guide it several times until learning how to mimic each other's motions, rhythms, and pressures. If you think about it, shortly after learning to masturbate you quickly developed a technique for stroking your penis that you then came to rely upon to bring you to the brink of an orgasm and beyond. If you change what you do by very much, either an orgasm will not happen or it will be less than expected. This is why you can last a long time. If and when you want her to be able to bring you to the trigger point of your orgasm easily, help your cause by showing her what to do and how. The same holds true for her with you.

> 3. during a handjob i can relax my penis more where in sex it feels tense (like im holding it when u make your penis jump if u get what i mean).. how can i relax it during sex?

Once again, this is directly connected to how aroused you have become in your partner's presence. It's all tied to eroticism and pheromones and emotional connectivity. It is not unusual for a guy to experience the sensation that his penis is going to burst because it is so hard and seems to want to grow beyond it's ability to because there just doesn't seem to be enough skin! and all because of a girl/woman! Wow!

Do not fight a good thing; instead, learn how best to incorporate all these things into your sex play.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

> im reading everything you say and i also google PE exercises and stuff but some of the stuff i dont understand really.. like when u said

Either I left something out or you really did not read everything I said in my previous post.

> Use either or both of the methods Brandye and I favor.

" Brandye and I favor two other methods. Her's is the Squeeze Technique that you can learn more about by doing a GOOGLE search. "

> Learn by way of the exercise how to gain a handle on your feelings and how to associate particular sensations with a pending climax at a benchmark along your arousal curve where you can stop and not not coast beyond loosing control and having an orgasm.

" Mine is a training exercise you and your partner can do over the course of a few sessions/weeks. I just described it again earlier today:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/plea...darn_fast.html "

> The most common reason you can last a long time when receiving a hand job is because as stimulating and intensely enjoyable as it is the technique employed is not what you have come to rely upon over the years to bring about your orgasm. This is why I encourage each partner to demonstrate to the other how s/he masturbates and then to take their hand and guide it several times until learning how to mimic each other's motions, rhythms, and pressures. If you think about it, shortly after learning to masturbate you quickly developed a technique for stroking your penis that you then came to rely upon to bring you to the brink of an orgasm and beyond. If you change what you do by very much, either an orgasm will not happen or it will be less than expected. This is why you can last a long time. If and when you want her to be able to bring you to the trigger point of your orgasm easily, help your cause by showing her what to do and how. The same holds true for her with you.

Please tell me what part of the above paragaraph you have difficulty understanding and I will attempt to clarify it for you.

> i have no clue what to do ..when i masturbate like 70% of the time i cum fast and when im lucky i get a decent-long masturbation...

The problem is most likely due to the fact that your mind is completely tuned into the experience with no part of it actually playing watchdog over your responses. What happens is that your orgasms sneek up on you seemingly without warning and by then it is too late to prevent them from happening.

If this is the case, the exercise will help you recognize those feelings that immediately preceed an orgasm. If you let a portion of your brain consciously ride herd over your progress then you will soon learn when to pause before you loose control so that you can pause stroking, let the sense of urgency subside until you feel more in control, and then start stroking again. You can do this two or three times or as often as you can tolerate before giving in to the inevitable orgasm.

Learning to use the squeeze technique will also help you.

> umm does age matter when it comes to this stuff??

It can and sometimes does have an affect.

A boy's age does have certain influences over his response.
* After going through puberty and learning to masturbate, he can generally do it four or more times a day for a few months. After that, the number begins to dwindle and will do so in steps throughout his life. Usually an older teen and person in their twenties can masturbate up to three times a day; however, having said that, you will find people that say more or less is all they can do.

* Teens and young men in their early twenties generally suffer from Premature Ejaculation. It occurs when having sex with a partner and rarely when home alone. That you seem to be climaxing before you want to, the fix for both are the same as noted above.

* Boys reach their sexual peak at about age nineteen. After that it is all downhill. Hormones rule over our heads for several years and it is often difficult for a person to change the order around.

Each of us has a different sex drive intensity. Some of us can masturbate only once every week or so; others once every few days; others once ever other day; once a day--and others can masturbate one or more times a day. All this depends upon how a guy is "wired".

Mother Nature has played a cruel trick on every boy and girl. She has given us the ability to enjoy orgasms, relieve stress, and, procreate, all without first maturing our brains, emotions, and psyches. This is why hormones rule! A person's brain does not fully mature until sometime in their 21st year. So, age matters in that our overall maturity level is constantly changing and what we rationalize at any time during the journey, does not always mean we're right or that what we want to do is best, even though you think you can justify matters at the time.