I have been seeing my bf for around three months. The sex has been good but it could be great... if i could add in my vibrator. :/ I dont know how to tell him i would like to add in the vib during sex. should i wait for a lil longer since we have only been dating for three months even tho we are comfortable with each other. He knows i am a very sexual person so it would not be too much of a surprise. I just did not want to offend him or hurt his feelings. But damn...it would save him a lot of trouble and give me awesome orgasms if we could incorporate a vibrator!!!
Sun, 11/22/2009 - 01:01
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How do i tell him i want to use a vibrator?
Try suggesting that he get to use it on you. see how comfortable he is with that and go from there.
I don't see where it would be wrong to ask. Sharing the vib between you could add to the enjoyment for each of you. If you are comfortable with each other, bring up the subject one night when you are both relaxed, or hide it under the cover, and when you are getting going with foreplay, turn it on, and rub it on him, and see how he reacts. I am thinking that he will not mind.
[QUOTE=MidnightRush;248436]I have been seeing my bf for around three months. The sex has been good but it could be great... if i could add in my vibrator. :/ I dont know how to tell him i would like to add in the vib during sex. should i wait for a lil longer since we have only been dating for three months even tho we are comfortable with each other. He knows i am a very sexual person so it would not be too much of a surprise. I just did not want to offend him or hurt his feelings. But damn...it would save him a lot of trouble and give me awesome orgasms if we could incorporate a vibrator!!![/QUOTE]
Just tell him to lay back and relax one evening, you have something you want to show him. Then do your thing with your vibe. I guarantee that will solve the problem! And it will be super hot for both of you!!!
Good luck,
Cap
"Hey, hun! Look at at this neat toy I've bought!"
btw - you didn't say WHY you expect the vibe to make your sex life great. Oh, I see - you need it to have awesome orgasms. Fine, but you may want to work on that.
To be completely honest, I would love for my wife to try one on me. Don't know what it is, but the sound of it is great. No I have to figure out a way to let her know that. :) It's bad that I can give other ppl advice, but have problems broaching the subject on my side.
Rebel - just say what I advised below.
Come on, peeps - you're naked - no use being shy now!
thanks all for the lovely and supportive replies!
my bf totally misunderstand the vibe and thought it was the same as the dildo till i explained to him. so it is going to take him a while to get used to the idea first. he was slightly traumatized the first time i told him i orgasm much easier and stronger when i could use a vibe. he misunderstood me as i could only use a dildo to orgasm... silly boy. i shall update if any progress is made!!! :]
Vibrators are awesome... I'd gladly use one on a gurl anytime... They can be lots of fun and a nice change here and there
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;249889]Inset a battery - twist it so it buzzes and vibirates and then rub it on sensitiv areas- DUH!!! What did you think you did with it?[/QUOTE]
Ahhh nice thanx EEK just what i needed to take a little stress
off on this "Christmas Eve Day in NZ"
LMAO... hmmm wonder if 9am is a little early to partake in a little christmas " Spirit"
My wife came out of the blue one day and mentioned getting one. I was surprised and thought it was pretty cool she was interested in adding things to our sex life. We looked online together and bought one. We don't use it every time of course, and whenever she wants it used (usually with oral) she just points to the condom box it's living in and makes this...excited sigh (? I don't know, but it's hot) and I go get it.
What kind do I get, how do they work?
Inset a battery - twist it so it buzzes and vibirates and then rub it on sensitiv areas- DUH!!! What did you think you did with it?
Online at Night Dreams.
There are two approaches:
1- Hey, boyfriend, what do you say we play with this vibrator?
2- Just pull it out and use it on him and then allow him to use it on you.
Whatever you do---don't be shy about offering or asking for advice. It's called cummunication.:o
I want to get a vibrator for me but have no idea where to start. Help?
Rush - you may want to work on that slow to orgasm issue, hun.
I recommend The Progam and Body Worship, two sticky posts that have helped many people out.
Just bring it up to him. I talked to my wife into using them and now she is much more comfortable talking about sex with me. Our sex life is much more open and we enjoy it more than when we were first married.