Recently my boyfriend and I were getting intimate. We don't have sex but we do have oral sex.
Well, half way through going down on me he stopped and came up to kiss me before moving my hand to his penis and ejaculating...then he promptly went to fall asleep on my chest. I went home rather pissed off that night.
When talking about it the next day he said he didn't understand what had upset me. He thought it was maybe that he had cum early, not the fact that he had stopped pleasuring me to worry about himself.
My question is that am I being selfish by wanting him to finish what he started and have him worry about me for a change, or should i not expect this? I do expect this, but am I being pedantic?
Background info: I regularly go down on my boy (and happily do so) during my period, a time when i dont particularly being touched, and expect nothing in return. And I kind of think that sometimes he should worry about me and not expect anything, but that is never the case.
Am I a nut? lol.
like lady was saying, maybe he wasn't sure. it can be hard to tell sometimes whether the girl has orgasmed or not. With my ex, she always let me know when she came, but with a girl i recently ate out, she was going wild, and it seemed never to stop, and i only stopped after she seemed to start to calm down. i never asked, so i don't know if she actually orgasmed or not, but i did take her for a wild ride. anyway, maybe you need to tell him you'll let him know when you've had enough.
As for him being able to give you pleasure without expecting any in return, that may be a hard concept for him to understand. Guys can cum any time of the month, and are never too sensitive. but maybe you could just let him finish himself off if he's really desperate and you're not in the mood. Try letting him finish you off and then simply roll over and go to sleep one night and see what he does. or be nice and simply talk about it with him. there's any number of things you can do about the problem
oh and sometimse, the guy thinks your done if you get alittle wet :P lol some just don't know if you are or arent, alot assume it and come up.. ..
Saying this as a guy myself, there's nothing wrong with the way you're feeling.
Now admittedly, when a man ejaculates it fires signals to our brain telling us to sleep to regain our energy levels, so that's the (biological) reason for it as I understand it - and yes, I may have been guilty of it from time to time over the years (not too often though I hope!)
That said, it's important that you communicate with your man to let him know how you feel. Any intimate act should be about pleasing both people - to as high a level of satisfaction as possible.
Cheers.
I don't think you're in the wrong or being selfish.
I mean, he just stopped doing what he was doing to you, to finish himself off.
I don't know exactly how to tell him other than to just tell him that you felt what he did was wrong.
Sometimes you just have to be blunt to people.