Spend thirty minutes or so looking around the Board. If you do not find what you are looking for, as "you do not make her orgasm," form an answerable question.

A quarter of all women never experience orgasm. She is ahead of all those; only a quarter regularly reach climax through penetration and thrusting. Perhaps she is in the middle half. Welcome to the club! Now, look for ways to go about that.

Please read each article listed in the Index found at the top of the main screen. Knowledge is empowering.

Each person, male and female, is responsible for his/her own orgasms. We do not give them away.

Relationships are partnerships, including the romantic and sexual aspects. Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other. Communication {verbal and non-verbal) is important, so too is providing feedback on how we are responding to each other's caresses and for what we need now/next.

You did not provide information on what you were doing that kept her from enjoying an orgasm. As an example, more often than not, women do not always climax just from vaginal intercourse; therefore, what most knowledgeable, skillful, caring, lovers do is to reach around and finger her while stroking. So, more information is needed.

> She can orgasm just fine by herself with a vibrator but anything else, she won't even get close.

If she uses a vibrator exclusively or even much of the time, then using fingers in an attempt to achieve a climax becomes difficult to impossible. Why? Because the vibrator causes such intense stimulation that anything less becomes less effective. If she uses a vibrator only occasionally, then she should not have a problem because her brain has been trained to respond to the less intense stimulation.

If this is what is happening to her then she needs to stop using the vibrator altogether for awhile and concentrate on learning to masturbate using her fingers. In essence, she needs to retrain herself. This is something you cannot do for her.

On the other hand, if she can regularly and consistently reach an orgasm with her finger(s), then I recommend examining how the two of you make love--how you arouse and stimulate her. The major problem many guys perpetuate is in rushing to the finish line. Inexperienced fellas have only one baseline for comparison--their responsiveness. From a "cold start" we can and do often reach the peak of arousal within a few minutes, not so for the fairer gender. If you are not devoting a minimum of half an hour fooling around and making out {Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting) all before getting to the Foreplay stage, then you are most likely not arousing her sufficiently.

Intercourse should not begin unless and until you are invited in, either verbally or non-verbally. That said, she should convey to you when she is at her peak and the brink of a climax. Encourage her to take on this responsibility. Do not assume. Very often guys operate under the misguided misconception that the best way to a climax (for themselves and vicariously for their partner) is from lots and Lots and LOTS of stroking--WRONG! Not so. This is the why behind all the making out a couple does.

Once intercourse begins, and depending upon the position used, reach around and stimulate her clitoris {tip and shaft) along with her vulva in general, also. Very few women achieve an orgasm from intercourse, alone.

As mentioned, above, please devote some time to reading all of the articles listed in the Index. Knowledge is empowering. Pay particular attention to those articles by EEK.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

Man is fire, woman is water. The man's fire brings the woman's water to boiling.

Listen to your girlfriend; she says: "if the circumstances were right maybe it would be possible" . Women are not, as men are, immediately stimulated by sight. They need more time. They need the right atmosphere, some romance; sometimes candles and soft music can help.