> I don't know when I am having an orgasm. I don't think I have ever had one.

More than likely you have not yet had the pleasure. Orgasms are more varied for the fairer gender than they are for the male of the species. This means that they can very in intensity and texture from episode to episode, and from what area of your body is the trigger, and, how aroused you are, and what time of the month it is. All this considered, orgasms are darn hard to miss.

Technically, orgasms manifest themselves by an increase in muscle tension, release of that built up tension with some muscle spasms, possibly toe curling, a change of breathing, and, resulting in a feeling of euphoria and a sense of well being.

> Do you always cum when you are having an orgasm?

"Cum" generally refers to the ejaculation in a male, and "squirting" when it happens with females. All women do not squirt and those who do, not all of the time. See, above. Do not strive to squirt; rather, enjoy the event when it occurs. If you try too hard, more often than not, the effort will prove self defeating.

> I get really tense and I stop because I think that it is over. Is it really over or should I keep going?

No, it is not over, in fact the process is just beginning! Keep on keeping on! :D Find those special places that feel especially good to touch, rub, and massage and keep fingering yourself for as long as it does. You can also change locations. At various times (stages of arousal) it may feel good to touch and work with the Labia Majora, then the Minoras (inner lips), in and around the vaginal entrance, the shaft of the clitoris; and later, if and when the tip of your clitoris becomes too sensitive to touch, folding the inner lips over the the tip and massaging it indirectly.

Very often you can derive as much enjoyment from indirect stimulation as from directly involving the sensitive clitoris. Do not omit breast and nipple play when you have become very aroused. You will probably discover that one nipple and areola are more reactive than the other. Capitalize on this by using one hand above the waist and one below after becoming very aroused. Experiment and make mental notes of what works and when.

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you will enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about--like yours. In addition, click on the site's Home Page for even more information.

Here is some reading material for you:

The Anatomy of the Female "O", Answered by Brandye & Dancingdoc2 & Inspired by Godiva

For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?

In addition to these, please scroll down to the bottom of Page Two of the Index and read the articles by Brandye, our resident M.D. concerning female orgasms, sexual response, an overly sensitive clitoris, etc.

Above all, do not be afraid to experiment and explore.

I encourage you to read all of the articles mentioned in the Index, and add the information to what you already know. Knowledge is empowering!

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc

I'm not a girl but i've been wit many and do far from what i've learn when it gets tense keep going even if it feels unbearable and should release a nice and wet

As written, the above comment makes absolutely no sense.

Well,
This is a frequent question most of the people ponder about.
I feel that taking a little bit of time gap and then continuing, will have a great going experience and you definitely will enjoy the final ecstasy. :)
You can read about all this from two expert girls who teach sex, below in my signature link.

Your PC muscle flexes.

Relax, breathe slowly and deeply, focus your mind on the pleasure, and let the feelings roll over you.

The PC muscle flexes and once experienced, you'll never have to ask this question again.

I've tried everything I could think of when masturbating and I never orgasm. It just ends. Sometimes I get that good feeling but I just don't know.
Is there any other methods available that don't require putting any foreign objects in or around my vagina other than my fingers?

Have you read the article listed in this article?

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

Here's more reading material

Vibrators are great training aids. Once you know what you are looking for, it is easier to find it!

I rarely use vibes or other toys. As you, I prefer to use my own fingers. A few trips on the Sybian have, however, been mind-blowing.

@Brandye: With my situation my parents frown upon anything tht has to do with sexual activities. I'm only 16 nd dont have a job yet so the vibrators are a no-go.

@Dancingdoc: Thanks for the references.

clitoral stimulators (flat headed small vibes) can be had for $20. Placed on or around the clitoris with just a touch of lube - just the thing!

Ok. I'll try to get one without getting in trouble. Lol thank you!
@DancingDoc: i checked out the articles but info on pleasing women wasnt too clear to me. But thanks still.