Right now i'm in a relationship where everything just seems to be going right. Unfortunately this is my first so i have zero experience when it comes to this kind of thing. Bluntly put, how do i know when she is ready for groping and other thing other than just kissing and making out?
Mon, 03/19/2007 - 01:57
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How do i know she is ready?
Do a an advanced search using my name and the key word: implied consent.
I have a general beginning relationship guideline that i follow to help this.
I do not break the waste line barrier.
I will make the move to kiss and after that i will react to her feelings.
Cause i just posted a thing about bad sex, and let me tell you there are some situations where you will make the move to get her aroused before she is ready.
Even if someone is not ready they can be caught in a heightened sense moment and your pre-emptive maneuver down south can skew her judgement of being ready. and then you find yourself having very awkward regretful sex.... AND THAT SUCKS... its not worth it.
So do make the first move to kiss, do get passionate and kiss her neck and react to hands groping and clutching sensual upper body areas.
But its not a bad idea to let her make the first move to the privates.... that way you always now she is ready for that activity without a doubt.
and you will have much better sexual experiences!
Wait until she tells you or grabs hold of you or otherwise clearly indicates that it is "game on". Then:
LEARN TO READ HER SIGNALS
for example, mine is - I remove my shoes and my eyeglasses.
Ok. I took your advice and i did some exploring. I laid down with her and we had a long make out session. I was kissing her neck, shoulder, arms and hands. I also rubbed her tummy for a while (never went bast her pants line) She didn't resist at all (except for one time when i was actually tickling her). Today marks 2 mounts since we started dating. Do you think it is too soon to try feeling around the upper body. Tomorrow we are supposed to spend a good amount of time together because her roommate is supposed to be gone to a college dance (they call it the Senate Bancquet for anyone who is wondering) What would you all suggest.
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ROFLMAO...Uhhhhhhhhhhh DOC...could you please make that BIGGER so us OLD GEZEERS can read it!!...:)
yes some people just don't listen:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new_sex/20641-intercourse_orgasms_the_ge...
go to the third paragraph - making out
That's a good place to start, Simon, thanks.
After reading that paragraph, he should read the third chapter in the thread:
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS/ and the gentle art of Making Out, FIRST
beginning with the paragraph on "Boundaries" in order to learn about "Implied Consent" and how to use this tool.
hm I must say though that in my short experience I didn't even have time for implied consent before i knew it she was dragging my hand down to her crotch, she certainly let me know what she wanted, alas some girls are unduly embarrassed
Sounds to me like she sidestepped "Implied" and went directly to "Consent"!~
oh yes quite quickly but she did trust me very much and I only did what she invited me to do (perhaps I don't initiate enough) but in any case we did just fine under the external circumstances