Hey everyone. How do I get my boyfriend to open up to the possibility of using sex toys during our sex sessions? :confused:
Wed, 07/28/2010 - 03:48
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How do I get him to open up to the possibility of sex toys?
Open your mouth and talk to him......... Go buy a toy together...
COMMUNICATE
[QUOTE=nuttychick;257520]Open your mouth and talk to him......... Go buy a toy together...
COMMUNICATE[/QUOTE]
I've already tried this. I have tried talking to him about it and he is simply closed to the idea. I also tried getting him to go in with me to a sex toy store once so I could buy a vibrator for myself and he was also not open to this idea.
Well if he is that much against it and you are that keen on the idea then the only other solution is.... Find another Boyfriend ;):p:D
lol or you could buy something for your self then surspise him by getting him something if he doesnt like it then you can try getting something else or just dropping it if he doesnt feel comfertable using them then you should do as he ask just like if he was doin somethign that made you feel uncomfertable you would just stop right. im just talking lol
Ask him "how do you feel about...?" and then let it lie. He'll think about it and will get back with you later. No need to nag or surprise him, just ask and let the mental image of you and him with a toy revolve around in his mind.
How about asking him to go to a sex shop to buy something he'd like?
Go to a sex shop so that he can pick a sexy outfit for you to wear and a porn film you can watch together and I'm sure you'll get a different response.
Once there, you can show him the stuff you want to try, but don't pressure him into anything.
Just from my point of view, it seems a bit of a taboo!
I wouldnt like my girlfriend to use sex toys on me but I would consider myself quite open minded! EvilKitty seems to have hit the nail on the head, if i was going to consider it, that would be the tactic i would respond best too!
Hmmm, ok. Thanks everyone! I am considering asking him to go with me to a sex shop sometime to help me pick out some lingerie that he thinks would look sexy on me and then while we are there I could point out something that I'd like to try with him. Maybe he'll open up more then.
He has used sex toys himself before. He used to have a sex doll which he told me was too small for him. He's rather well endowed and apparently his erect penis was too wide for the small holes in the doll. He has also used masturbators before too but he said most of them were too tight of a fit for him. But yeah, like I said, he's rather well endowed both in circumference and length.
I think part of his problem might be that he's afraid that I'd like the sex toy more than I like him. But that is totally not true. I am not sure how to dispel this false idea that he might have either. Any advice?
SPicy - we've answered that one before - check around.
talk to him!tell him that you just want to spice things up and that you are perfectly happy with his size
Many guys feel like they will be replaced by a vibrator just as many women feel threated by her partners's porn veiwing habits. If he's not comfortable with a vibrator, then your only recourse is to respect and accept his feelings on the subject. If however, you are lacking sexual satisfaction during your encounters and are repeatedly having sex without having and orgasm, then he also needs to know that while you are respecting his feelings, you need a few minutes with your vibrator to finish the job for yourself! A man could learn allot just by watching his partner use one!
If your boyfriend doesn't want a sex toy, don't force him. You already have tried all the possibilities of trying to get him to buy a sex toy. If you really want a sex toy, then you should buy. Just use it whenever he's not around. :D