> most of the time i have no problem getting him turned on

How do you get him turned on most of the time? How about a list of A, B, & C, etc.

> i wanted to know when were just laying down watching tv what are some small things i can do to him to make him want me more than ever!

The reason I am asking is because your answer really does lie with the small things you can do and these begin with kissing and caressing--NOT foreplay. In addition to the physical are the verbal cues. You can whisper anything you want such as "I want you", "is this having any effect", etc. Your attitude will convey an interest, also. If you do things to him with an attitude of enthusiasm or expectancy, he will notice.

There is no correct answer. Something as simple as taking his hand and reading his palm and the lines and caressing his hand will often start something in him. So will caressing an arm, stroking the back of his head and nape of the neck.

You can finger his pecs and nipples, although my suggestion is not to just go right there. You should take the circuitous route and let your fingers trace down his front and around before zeroing in. Either nipple will work, however, if you happen to know which one is more reactive, then concentrate on that one. Now, as you probably know from your own, nipples do not really turn on and become reactive until we are really turned on, so while you can mess with them early on, do not expect much of a reaction from him. Of course, in the beginning you only want to have him sit up, take notice, and get in the mood, so doing this will work. You can finger a guy's nipple directly, but for some reason, doing it with some material in between your fingernail and him feels much better. So, if he's wearing a T-shirt, just go for it. Same if all he has on is a shirt. What, no shirt? Just go for it anyway.

If your hands have ready access to his upper legs then let a hand roam around from the knee(s) up. Keep away from his penis if you happen to know where it is inside his pants. Oh, sure, you can meander close, but do not touch it--not yet, save that for later unless the boy just needs a stronger message!

Speaking of not so subtle messages...ya know how guys often sit with their hand over their pubic mound and between their legs? Well, there are two things you can do. One is to caress his hand if you happen to find it there. Plan B would be to put it there and caress it and maybe stray a bit nearby (hint). The other thing is to place his hand over your pubic area and caress his fingers and/or hand subtly or not so. If you want to move on to other areas, just leave his hand where it is if it is resting on you.

If you happen to be working your magic on the back of his head and neck, then let your fingers move around to the side facing you. You can kiss his neck or you can kiss your finger and touch his neck, or, you can gently blow a kiss to the side of his neck.

A word of caution is to stay away from his ears. Even if he likes having you finger or suck or rub, these things are best saved for when he is definitely turned on. In the early stages and particularly if he is involved in a program or reading, or listening intently to music, such touching will often be annoying and disruptive. Although, once again, if the boy needs a stronger message after all else has seemingly failed, bite an earlobe and/or suck on it!

There is nothing wrong with letting your fingers roam and go over his pants where his penis is located. Neither is there anything wrong with roaming between his legs and cupping his scrotum. I just think that these should come later in the process than the beginning. As I suggested at the top, there is no correct way and let's face it, you are there, so if you want to make a statement, then grasp the mound unless he isn't hard yet, then grab anyway. You can kneed his scrotum through his pants very easily, also.

I hope these ideas have been helpful or at least inspirational, if not downright suggestive. Good luck. Got questions?

Perhaps you can "train" him using pavlovian methods...

My ex and I did this to each other by accident. For example, she had very long hair and usually wore it up. But when we were getting it on in bed, she always let it down because it made her feel sexy. So whenever she let her hair down, even if it was for other reasons, I was instinctively filled with desire for her.

In my case, I feel my eyewear is rather unsexy, and I always take it off for bedroom fun. So even if I took my glasses off for another reason, she would instinctually warm up to me and start with her seductive gestures.

Perhaps you should invent some sort of signal like this so he would be "trained" to respond to you!

hey how many more do ya want ? frankly I think doc covered everything possible

Talk sexy. NOT necessarily slutty or dirty. BE sexy. Tease a lot! :D

Get "close", but not "too" close. Give a little, but not too much, then take it away, (not mean or deceitful). BUT don't do that TOO much, or he will think your just jerking him around.

Change the conversation, suttelly (sp?), to something sexy. Talk about what you want, or at most hint at it.

You know what he likes, (I hope). Employ it, and enjoy it! :D

Well, you can't really generalize guys! For example the person i'm with now loves his balls touched, one of my ex's hated it!
So, you should find his sensitive spotts, then while whatching tv or whatever gently rub/massage them. Its really a trial & error thing.GOOD LUCK!

Just start caressing him through his cloth's and giving him little kisses.It work's for me.

Rub your breasts against him.

Entwine your legs in his and let him feal the warmth coming from your crotch.

One of my favorite things to do to my guy is turn him on when he is least expecting it. A few things I've tried, If we're just sitting watching tv, I'll get up, walk right in front of the tv and just take my shirt off. He can't stand it when I do this it drives him crazy. He always attacks me after this!
Also, my boyfriend loves it when I take control. I made us late for a party once because out of nowhere I just pushed him over on the bed, got on top of him and started kissing him and rubbing my hands over his body. He went nuts.