Hi Desperate24,
Here's my point of view from a guys perspective. Theres no real need to tell him right away unless he is open and tells you about his masturbation routine. When he does tell him about his habits tell him about yours. You don't have to show and tell, it's optional now...

Everybody is responsible for getting their own climax. You are just as much the blame as him. Sure, everybody is different and have different needs. If you want to keep him, you will have to learn to work with him. Make sure you get yours first or at the very least about to cum before he enters you. Talk to him. Let him know when you are ready and don't let him enter you until you are ready. Tell him what you want, how you want it, when you want it and why you want it. If he can't accept it, move on. Life's too short...:)

Get your dildo and be sure to get one that fills all your fantasies. after all, it's yours...

I don't think it's a question about telling him about your new toy, rather it's more of a need for open communication required between both of you regarding sexual satisfaction. You need to be able to discuss all aspects; if he is just getting his cookies off & leaving you unsatisfied, you'd better speak up now. And then together generate viable alternative solutions to the real issue.

Sera is spot on. Perhaps he should learn to bring you off first and then the time would not be such an issue.

There are lots of things around the house that work as well as commercial dildoes and I am willing to bet that there are many women who regularly use "something" without their partners knowledge.