Okay guys - so just a question here, will there be regrets?
I'm a virgin (girl just as an FYI) and I'm really ready for sex but don't have a boyfriend, nor do I have any current "interests" particularly.
I've come pretty close with some guy friends of mine, but then sortof decided against it because of the whole "the first time has to be with someone you love" and yadda yadda.
I'd honestly rather not have to go through the akward relationship aspect of losing it to a boyfriend.
What do you guys think? Am I gonna regret it if I just pick somebody I'm comfortable with, or should I wait for "him"?
I guess part of me just doesn't want to have to expain to a boyfriend that I'm a virgin... seeing as I'm a little older (18 - not exactly old but...)
Thanks for your opinions. I swear I'm not as insecure as all that just sounded.... LMAO.
Do you just want to pop your cherry and get on to the next stage of life?
Do you want to have sex mean something more than getting rid of an "itch"?
If all you are interested in is recreational sex, or a means to an end, then yes, I suppose any guy will do. So too, will any dildo and a vibrator!
If you want sex to have an emotional component as it is designed to do--that is to be the outward expression of the love you and your partner have for each other, then wait.
Most guys like the idea of being with at least one virgin during their life. Why not make the experience both?
well even though you are ready i woudnt rush it. wait for the oppurtune moment
it's true, i waited for someone special to me, besides you only have on first time make sure it's good and with someone you care about
I lost my virginity rather early, when I was 14. I had an older BF at the time (he was 18) and he was really pressuring me, so I went ahead and did it. Of course I regret it. It wasn't special at all and in fact I found it personally degrading that I lowered myself to giving my virginity to someone who didn't deserve it!
It's a personal choice about whether you want it to happen within a relationship or not. If I could go back in time and choose again when to lose my virginity, I probably would have waited for a man that I felt some emotional connection to - one that I loved and trusted. For sex to be enjoyable (especially when you are inexperienced) I really think you need to be with someone that you feel safe with and that you trust, and that will care about your sexual satisfaction as well. In my experience, all of that comes within a relationship. Finding a fling is good for just "getting off", but you are not likely to orgasm during sex anyway until you are experienced enough to learn what does it for you. Being with a man who will take the time to explore your likes/dislikes and who cares about your needs is a much better experience, IMO, for a first-time. Most of the guys you are going to find in a one-night stand or who are just around for the sex aren't going to be patient enough to want to make love to you and make it a special experience for you too.
After my first few times with my first BF, I didn't understand what the big deal was about sex and thought it pretty much sucked. It was because he didn't care at all about my pleasure and I never had a chance to explore anything or feel safe enough around him to tell him what I wanted. I walked away from my first experiences with sex not really caring if I ever had sex again, because it just wasn't that great to me. It wasn't until later when I was with someone that I really cared about and that cared about me that I found out how enjoyable it can be.
I was 16, she was 14, we were both secure and both agreed. I don't regret it.
i lost it to an older guy who pressured and i regret it but i met my love and i now think of him as my first. my x did not care about my freelings and i felt used but now i dont care becouse i have my love and if i did not have that incedent we might not be together.