Well as for the amount and pressure... you could probably not have him masturbate or anything so he doesn't ejaculate for like a week or so. Then make foreplay last and last and last until the build up is so high.

i agree to the above in part, unfortunately for some this is a double edged sword. Abstinence can result in more longing and thus an adverse effect on lasting longer. Try extend the foreplay and make intercourse part of this. Get it on and build up (ensuring that you stop before the point of ni return) and then resume some other form of stimulation. Try changing positions and methods of stimulation (not forgetting to give as much visual stimulation as can be taken) until you are both finaly "needing" completion.

I am almost envious that this advice may be used by someone else before I can try it.

if you get your guy to ejacualte a good few times in a day the next day he should have a really 'full sack' so to speak!

[QUOTE=curious Al]if you get your guy to ejacualte a good few times in a day the next day he should have a really 'full sack' so to speak![/QUOTE]
huh? its the opposite way, if he does that he wont...

just get him not to do anything for a good 3-5 days, then when the time coems, make it long....lot of foreplay, teasing...make the sex last...then make him cum...itll be much bette.r

[QUOTE=curious Al]if you get your guy to ejacualte a good few times in a day the next day he should have a really 'full sack' so to speak![/QUOTE]

This is completely incorrect; in fact, just the opposite is required as noted above.

If a guy masturbates several times a day, and for the sake of discussion, let's say he does it four times and makes an attempt for number five, he will soon discover that his body cry's "uncle" and refuses to respond--saying, enough already! In order for a "full head of steam" to re-establish itself, he will have to wait 24-48 hours. This is not to say he can't have an ejaculation several hours later, he can after waiting awhile longer; however, this is to say that the resulting ejaculation won't be very strong.

This becomes a contest between needing or wanting to masturbate for pleasure or tension relief; and, biting the bullet so to speak and enduring some degree of tension for a day or two in order to have a much stronger climax.

I see the solution as a two-part process. The first part is to abstain for a day or two; part two is to practice the technique for mastering PE--or, just using the Squeeze technique. I doubt that you could last a week.

sorry.. iv said that wrong. With me this happens please take in to account. If i ejaculate a few times in 1 day a few days after i have a "full sack" :)

when you pee theres a muscle you can tense to stop it in mid flow. once youve isolated that muscle, in the office or bus or soemthing. tense and release. i heard it gives men stronnger erections and ejaculations

my bofriend and i only get to see each other at most every two to three months because of a current circumstance. we used to have sex all the time and he would cum but now he cums longer and harder he almost cant control his body... i tease him over the phone a lot and we have phone sex but when we know we're about to see each other i just tease him and tell him what im going to do to him and what i want him to do to me...its awesome

but nobody has answered the longer part or at least i didnt see it
i want to last longer

so bad!!!

just be really really sexy. If the man is very turned on then he will cum much more and for much longer. At least thats my experiences. If it's a really sexy woman and she acts sexy too, I will cum much better and actualyl shoot further.

[QUOTE=demonbuttercup]Well as for the amount and pressure... you could probably not have him masturbate or anything so he doesn't ejaculate for like a week or so. Then make foreplay last and last and last until the build up is so high.[/QUOTE]

This is a very good suggestion--------but, a week?

[QUOTE=learning]i agree to the above in part, unfortunately for some this is a double edged sword. Abstinence can result in more longing and thus an adverse effect on lasting longer. Try extend the foreplay and make intercourse part of this. Get it on and build up (ensuring that you stop before the point of ni return) and then resume some other form of stimulation. Try changing positions and methods of stimulation (not forgetting to give as much visual stimulation as can be taken) until you are both finaly "needing" completion.

I am almost envious that this advice may be used by someone else before I can try it.[/QUOTE]

Fundamentally, I agree, however, it is not the purpose of intercourse to build a person's level of excitement and arousal, this is the why behind all the kissing, caressing, and, foreplay. The second reason I disagree with relying upon intercourse is that while it does feel good and it will peak a guy's ardor triggering an orgasm, the stroking actions do not produce very intense sensations when a person is not turned on all that much--certainly not as much as a good hand job and/or oral stimulation.

[QUOTE=darkphoton]when you pee theres a muscle you can tense to stop it in mid flow. once youve isolated that muscle, in the office or bus or soemthing. tense and release. i heard it gives men stronnger erections and ejaculations[/QUOTE]

It's the PC muscle that you can feel contract between your legs in the crotch. It is the same muscle that you use to interrupt the flow of urine.
Exercising this muscle does in fact augment the feelings associated with orgasms.

[QUOTE=bigpimpinbigbird]but nobody has answered the longer part or at least i didnt see it
i want to last longer

so bad!!![/QUOTE]

Do an advanced search using my name and the terms:

Premature Ejaculation
PE
exercise
squeeze technique

You will find two techniques discussed, the first is the "Squeeze Technique" and the second is an exercise the two of you can learn that is primarily for sufferers of PE, yet the control that you learn is exactly what is required to last longer.

In terms of shooting a large load with a lot of force behind it, I find that prolonging the period of arousal before he orgasms helps. The longer you keep him horny and on the edge, the more he will be in a sexual frenzy and it will cause his ejaculation to be more plentiful, powerful and pleasurable for him.

Lots of guys discover this indirectly through masturbation... we will often try to stay on the edge for a while before finishing because it make the finish that much more satisfying.

[QUOTE=bigpimpinbigbird;151515]but nobody has answered the longer part or at least i didnt see it
i want to last longer

so bad!!![/QUOTE]

I know this is an old thread, but figured I'd answer this for anyone that stumbles across it like I did. Kegels are the way to go for lasting longer. As mentioned above the easiest way to start is when you are urinating, just stop it and that is a kegel exercise. Keep doing those every day, though you don't have to only do them while urinating (that's just the easiest way to figure out how to do them). This will also strengthen your erection. The muscle that you will be exercising controls ejaculation, and also helps pump blood to the penis. Once you've been doing kegels for a while then you can start to take it even further by either masturbating and stopping right before ejaculation and hold a kegel until the feeling passes or do the same thing during sex (though your will power will likely be less during sex when it comes to stopping). After a while you'll find that you can use kegels during sex to last a long, long time. It's not uncommon for me to have sex and never ejaculate the entire night, and it's all due to kegels.

As far as the other part of the original question, it seems that it's pretty much been answered with the abstaining from ejaculating for some time and more foreplay (if you spend a lot of time on foreplay with a woman and get her really, really wet it will also help you last longer), but diet can also play a part in semen production as well, so if you eat a lot of junk food try changing your diet and that could also make a big difference.

Hereyago:

Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controlling Premature Ejaculation

When you and your partner master these two techniques, you will be able to last and last.

Having spent the past 30 years trying to last longer I can say that the FIRST thing is to not concentrate on how long one lasts.

Several factors come into play: How long it has been since the last ejaculation, how often a man ejaculates, age, mental state if agitation or relaxation, and sexual experience are the ones I can name off the top of my head.

Take the first three things I mentioned. If a man has not had any sort of sexual release in several days he will most likely reach orgasm and ejaculate sooner. If he has an orgasm or several every day then there will be less tension in his prostate and the rest of his ejaculatory apparatus. Younger men tend to reach orgasm more quickly. They also had a more rapid recovery time. A man in his teens or twenties might reach orgasm and loose his erection in less than three minutes, but he might also achieve another erection in three to five minutes and be able to copulate again for a longer period of time.

If a man is consciously concerned about how long he lasts he is more likely to orgasm quickly. My personal experience has been that relaxing and enjoying the moment, no matter how long it might last,not caring if I climax quickly actually leads to a longer session.

Once a man has more sexual experience, especially with the same partner he should know more about his own body and how it responds. He should be able to use this knowledge in order to "last longer" if that si what he desires.
There are a number of techniques and exercises also. Dancing Doc recommends the Squeeze Technique which is the standard recommended by therapists. It works for many men. I find the Grunt Technique more effective for myself.

If a man wants to ejaculate more he should make sure he is properly hydrated. Most modern humans are slightly dehydrated most of the time and we don't even realize it. It is important to drink lots of water and avoid foods and beverages that can dehydrate us such as coffee and alcoholic beverages. Eating vegetables such as artichokes and asparagus will increase the production of semen.
Frequent ejaculation will result in smaller quantities of ejaculate.

When you say "harder" I take that to mean force with which the ejaculate is expelled. This is really a question of the individual. A younger man ejaculates with more force than an older man in general. And some men simply ejaculate with more force than others. Probably the more semen there is stored in the prostate the harder it is going to fly out.

A man's overall health is also reflected in all of these questions.

Yeah, if my boyfriend doesnt masturbate he doesnt last 3 minutes! Better keep him jerking.

Wouldn't be able to help on making the time longer but as for amount and pressure [...]
Foreplay will let it build up quite a bit. When I want to go hard and far, I just contract the muscle and hold it for a quick second and then let go. It really will work and highten the experience.

i'm having problems tyring to get my bf to stay hard...
any advice please help!!!!:confused:

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> i'm having problems tyring to get my bf to stay hard.

We need more information about what is happening when in order to be able to be of any real help. For example-
* does he get an erection and remain hard when masturbating
* does he get an erection when making out with you
+ if so, when does he seem to lose it

* how long do you generally fool around making out
+ when his erection subsides or begins to, what do you and he do

It is important to know and understand that erections come and erections go and when the penis begins to become flaccid, it does not mean that all the festivities are over. HECK NO, just fall back and continue to make out and work on rebuilding the erection.

* Have the two of you been in this relationship for a while or is this a new relationship

If this is a new relationship it is not unusual for guys to have "Performance Anxiety" caused by worrying about any number of things. The more we worry, the worse the situation becomes. We become our own worst enemy. The fix quite literally is for him to stop worrying. (I know, easier said than done), yet this is what he must do if this is what is happening.

If your relationship is established, when did he begin having problems? At what point in the proceedings does his erection begin subsiding?

If you will provide answers to the above, we can be of more help.

yeah he gets and remains hard while masturbating..
yeah all the time..
he loses it out of no where it just seems to happen when he's not expecting it...

we fool around for awhile..
when it does subside i usually just keep making out with him nd keep playing with him..

we've been dating for awhile...

i don't really know when he started having problems with this...
almost or close to when we have sex..

so i'm kinda thinkin that he might have performance anxiety..
but i'm not sure cuz he use to never have this problem then all of a sudden it starts..