hey everyone, i met this guy for a random hook up and we hit it off so much that after extreemly fullfilling sex we talked for hours and decided to start dating, and i have no clue how to please him, he is very quiet in bed but says he loves it when the girl plays hard to get, lol, i have no clue how to play hard to get, normaly im the type to just jump in and play. but because he is quiet im always worried im not pleasing him. i found out through wonderfully open ex gfs that he likes rough anal but am unsure how to tell him i want to try it with him, also i have no clue whatsoever to do to him. i want him to grip the sheets as much as he makes me. any tips or suggestions would be wellcomed and tried. also, how should i adress the fact that i would like him to trim the hair on his balls with out being insulting? :s
Thu, 10/07/2010 - 16:50
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how can i please my boyfriend
[QUOTE=Roywyn;259966][COLOR="blue">hey everyone, i met this guy for a random hook up and we hit it off so much that after extreemly fullfilling sex we talked for hours and decided to start dating, and i have no clue how to please him,[/COLOR]
Hello Roywyn,
I'm confused: you have been a member of our community for over five years and have appeared to have not picked up any helpful hints during this time. What am I missing?
If you have had "extreemly fullfilling" [sic] sex, something must have been going well.
[COLOR="blue">he is very quiet in bed but says he loves it when the girl plays hard to get, lol, i have no clue how to play hard to get, normaly im the type to just jump in and play. but because he is quiet im always worried im not pleasing him.[/COLOR]
I can tell you what "playing hard to get" means to me; undoubtedly, your friend has his own ideas. Communication and feedback are the cornerstones of a successful relationship and this includes the romantic aspect, also. Why not ask him what playing hard to get means to him?
[COLOR="blue">i found out through wonderfully open ex gfs that he likes rough anal but am unsure how to tell him i want to try it with him, also i have no clue whatsoever to do to him.[/COLOR]
Rough anal is a definite no-no! Thie why has been discussed at length over the past several years. Fingering and anal intercourse should be gentle, because of the tissues involved.
Answers to your questions were given just above your response in today's other discussion. Have you read the articles listed in the Index? Did you read EEKs response just above yours?
[COLOR="blue">i want him to grip the sheets as much as he makes me. any tips or suggestions would be wellcomed and tried. also, how should i adress the fact that i would like him to trim the hair on his balls with out being insulting? [/COLOR]:s[/QUOTE]
Asked and answered, above.
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;259973]Hello Roywyn,
I'm confused: you have been a member of our community for over five years [/QUOTE]
lol, yes i have, but i had to relinquish my computer for a while, a long while. just got it back this week actualy. :p thats what happens when you move around alot i guess. but thanks for the feed back ^-^
Oh dear. I have misgivings with this guy.
1. he keeps you guessing about whether he enjoys sex with you or not
2. he likes it when he gets to cajole, pressure and push a woman into having sex - prefers doing all that work over love freely and joyously given
3. he enjoys rough anal sex - as the RECEIVER, I hope because honey, he could do a LOT of damage and the thrill for you just isn't enough to make it worth the risk. MEN have the P-Spot on the prostate gland which is accessed via the rectum and anal sex - women DON'T.
AND you just met this guy and he's asking for all of this rough stuff that potentially puts you at risk of physical harm - gee, what's up with that? Unless you've known this guy for years, just have him go quietly away.
If he likes anal, start with showering together. Then, when you're in bed together, suck his cock, working your way down his balls to his perineum, and then to his glory hole. He'll love the feel of your tongue licking his ass hole! Once you get him fired up with some anal licking, go for the strap on. Start with a small strap on and see how he likes it. You can always work your way up from there. Good luck.
[color=green]What got me is the fact that you're getting sex advice from ex gfs of his. Something about that I wouldn't trust. And the fact that they just came out with rough anal. Wow!! Ask the bf first to see what he says without telling him that you talked to the ex gfs. Maybe he does like it, maybe not.[/color]
he is very quiet in bed but says he loves it when the girl plays hard to get, lol, i have no clue how to play hard to get, normaly im the type to just jump in and play. but because he is quiet im always worried im not impressing him.
playing hard to get involves pretending:
1. that you do not like sex and therefore have to be coaxed/pressured/bullied into having sex
2. that your word - as in saying NO - doesn't actually mean NO but instead means "talk me into having sex with you"
and if any man prefers you to play hard to get - you should kick him in the teeth - because what asking you to play hard to get get really means is he has no ego and only feels MANLY when bullying some woman into letting him screw her.
Your bf has some messed-up ideas as to what is feminine and what is masculine. Time for a new bf.
A tigress is feminine as well as female and the only fit mate for a tigress is a tiger. Go find one.