All i would say is tell her shes nice sexy and that sort of stuff, i had a ex gf who didnt like her body and after a while she started to like it with me saying it all the time, one thing did help one night was the news came on, there was a survey of mens tastes of curvy meduim build females. that did help alot once she heard that

hmmm, you say you have done anal before? well maybe if she allows you to do anal again, while you're back there, compliment her butt. i dont really like my body; i used to hate my butt! but ive been told over and over how nice it is, and i have come to love it...but, yeah, if you get the chance to try anal again, just tell her how much you love it

Communication is the best way.
I think you need to talk her and say her that she is always good and beautiful for you.
Her body shape doesn't matter for you.

Every woman has hangups about some parts of her body. You are not going to change that; just be certain that you do not inadvertently reinforce her negatives.

One trick, if she's willing is to put her in front of a full length mirror (ideally naked, but in her undies is great too) and point out everything on her body that you think is gorgeous.

I'm personally a huge fan of how a woman tastes. I love the taste of her arousal. If it was my girlfriend, I'd mention that... the key is STICK TO HONEST STATEMENTS. Don't lie and don't even stretch the truth here. There are times to stretch the truth to make her feel better, this ain't one of them.

I hope this helps. The attitude towards your GF you've mentioned is great.

I've never really liked my butt,i'm curvy and an ex boyfriend used to call me "lard arse" he said it was a joke,but it wasn't to me.So guys don't say anything about your lady's assets if you don't mean what you say.My husband who i'm separated from recently said when i asked him what he first saw in me replied that he liked my "butt".Wish he had told me while we were still together because i don't think that i would have had such a complex about my body.He always wanted to do anal with me ,and i was not too keen.Now i know why he asked and if i knew that he idolised my "bum"i may have given him all of the anal he asked for.

[QUOTE=Brandye;258420]Every woman has hangups about some parts of her body. You are not going to change that; just be certain that you do not inadvertently reinforce her negatives.[/QUOTE]

In my experience, that's close to true, but not quite. Consistently and repeatedly comment on her favorably. Remember the least bit of reinforcement of the negatives will undo weeks of positive comments. The ******* media seems to have 1 standard of beauty and frankly, not a body-type that truly turns me on. It takes so much work to undo the damage that media BS does to her, but she deserves to feel good about herself.

Positive feedback can lessen the hang up, Chris, but you're not going to make it go away completely. Even if diminished, it will always exist to some extent in the back corner of the brain. I'd personally go beyond saying every woman has hang ups about some part of her body, to every PERSON has them. It's simply human nature. We're all our own worst critic.

[QUOTE=lnt1103;260178]Positive feedback can lessen the hang up, Chris, but you're not going to make it go away completely. Even if diminished, it will always exist to some extent in the back corner of the brain. I'd personally go beyond saying every woman has hang ups about some part of her body, to every PERSON has them. It's simply human nature. We're all our own worst critic.[/QUOTE]

I must agree.

Okay: BOTH of you stand naked, side-by-side in front of the mirror TOGETHER. Point out her HOURGLASS shape. Then ask "what man worthy of the name wouldn't want to get next to you?"

The point being that women look at themselves in ISOLATION and compare themselves to Twiggy or some other waif-model - esp in Western cultures.

That hourglass shape has been hardwired into heterosexual males' brains as THE HOLY GRAIL. Why? Because it means "of child-bearing age" and "capable of bearing and feeding live young". Those flared hips through which a child will enter the world with consummate ease! The breasts promising not only fecundity but also nourishment. The classical female figure ignites and drives men insane and if she also has a waist and a flat belly - it gives him hope - "she's NOT pregnant so I am in with a chance!" In her figure lies his immortality.

Twiggy and other waif-women don't even come close. Fun and games okay, but when a man wants children, bone of his bone, flesh of his flesh, a legacy - he goes for the "hourglass" every time.

That is what you, OP, need to explain to your lady. Her rump is not large (etc.) it is GLORIOUS! Express yourself in EPIC terms for nothing less will get through to her after so many years of being conidtioned to think her ass fat.

You're fighting a dragon here, buddy - so go all out!

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;260238]Okay: BOTH of you stand naked, side-by-side in front of the mirror TOGETHER. Point out her HOURGLASS shape. Then ask "what man worthy of the name wouldn't want to get next to you?"

The point being that women look at themselves in ISOLATION and compare themselves to Twiggy or some other waif-model - esp in Western cultures.

That hourglass shape has been hardwired into heterosexual males' brains as THE HOLY GRAIL. Why? Because it means "of child-bearing age" and "capable of bearing and feeding live young". Those flared hips through which a child will enter the world with consummate ease! The breasts promising not only fecundity but also nourishment. The classical female figure ignites and drives men insane and if she also has a waist and a flat belly - it gives him hope - "she's NOT pregnant so I am in with a chance!" In her figure lies his immortality.

Twiggy and other waif-women don't even come close. Fun and games okay, but when a man wants children, bone of his bone, flesh of his flesh, a legacy - he goes for the "hourglass" every time.

That is what you, OP, need to explain to your lady. Her rump is not large (etc.) it is GLORIOUS! Express yourself in EPIC terms for nothing less will get through to her after so many years of being conidtioned to think her ass fat.

You're fighting a dragon here, buddy - so go all out![/QUOTE]

You're suggestion is better than mine.

BTW

Men are similarly afflicted with this "poor body image" thing DESPITE their outward show of bravado and groundless self-satisfaction.

What men fail to understand is... women do not trust men who are better-looking than they are.

and that while the perfect masculine triangular figure may ignite her desires, mmmmm those shoulders and that rump...yumm, women have such a powerful "personal security ethic" hardwired in that, in mature women, CHARACTER matters far more than form.

You could be as ugly as Quasimodo and yet STILL get 'the right girl' with the right personality and character.

So, ladies, roll about on the bed with him and say "WHAT A MAN!!!"

Hey, we're all in this together!