[QUOTE=Quote (mspersia82 @ July 09 2004,14:40)]I'm looking for creative suggestions here.  What is the single best thing that a woman can do to please you?  I have a new boyfriend and I'd like to do something incredible for him.  I'd appreciate any suggestions.  Be descriptive!  Thank you.[/QUOTE]
You have an excellent attititude, sweetie!!  You're already halfway to blowing his mind just by your desire to do so.  I think your new BF is a VERY lucky guy to find a rare catch like you.

Of course, this will all vary from guy to guy, but in MY case:

1) Know how/when to talk sexy, and dirty.  Make him wriggle with a clever innuendo in front of his friends, rewrite one of his sexual fantasies in your own style, and describe it to him.

2) Have sex outdoors - nothing like the wide open spaces;

3) Have sex in a hotel room with the door open - I love the thought that someone MIGHT walk in.

4 Have sex with gusto and energy - this one is VERY specific to me, but I'm extremely attracted to girls who are physically strong, go at me hard and like to BE thrust into hard.  Your man may well be different, you'll need to see for yourself;

5) Don't whimper - scream.  Porn actress style.  The bed is not the place for demure, at least not for long.  On the other hand, don't overdo his name; it got tedious with my last girlfriend.  Two or three "Oh John!'"s will suffice.

6) Try the 'Hello, big boy!" approach.  This means complimenting him on his muscles, his height, weight, wide chest/shoulders, whatever.  Done right, it need not come off cliche'd, and anyway, NO man dislikes compliments about his body...  I found it odd that my last girlfriend was so taken with my arms - I thought girls generally didn't go for arms, and although they aren't even my best feature as a bodybuilder, not by a long shot - I definitely wasn't complaining as she rubbed her breasts on my biceps!;

7) Play footsie with him in a restaurant.  Not out of the blue, but rather lead up to it.  For example, if you're each happy about the other ogling other people, perhaps you could point out the curves of the stunning blond 5 at the next table, and as he starts to appreciate her lines, YOU move your foot up there and start describing what he'd probably like to do to her.

I'd be happy to go into further detail about any/all of the above.  Afterwards, show your boyfriend this page, and point to this line:

"Hey pal, you owe me a beer!!!"

JB

[QUOTE=Quote (lilly2279 @ July 17 2004,11:39)]The sad thing is that a man cleaning the house could probably blow a woman's mind.  But let's remember the women who get cranky when he does try to do something around the house (i.e. he unloads the dishwasher wrong?)  That sometimes can be a large reason men won't do stuff.[/QUOTE]
yeah thats the roommate though.
my b/f doesn't do anything...lol.
and i don't get bitchy.

that was in a movie or tv show once...where the guy purposely did everything wrong so his wife would never ask him to do anything. lol

The sad thing is that a man cleaning the house could probably blow a woman's mind. But let's remember the women who get cranky when he does try to do something around the house (i.e. he unloads the dishwasher wrong?) That sometimes can be a large reason men won't do stuff.

Anywhooooo. Back to blowing a man...... oh a man's mind..ha ha

Morning sex is wonderful. A morning blowjob is a lot of men's favorite thing. Corrrect me if I'm wrong. A little hint for worrying about morning breath. Yes, you can jump up, run to the bathroom and straighten up. Orrr keep some breath mints by your bed. Pop one in and give one to him. He'll know what's on your mind.

well at least we know that a way a guy could blow our minds is to clean the house lol... jk.

i have this trouble sometimes that im stuck doing all the housework...etc.
i live w/ my b/f and his friend.. who is also a guy.
so you can only imagine the messes lol.
the friend usually keeps his messes confined to his room and only makes minor messes in the kitchen. tho im usually the one who mops, unloads the dishwasher..etc.
my b/f is messy and im constantly on him to clean up after himself.
im definetly not a perfectionist, but i do like a clean house. doesn't have to be spotless but somewhat neat.
i think my problem is is that if they do finally clean the livingroom, vacuum, unload the dishwasher... they don't do it right! lol
its all half ass done and i end up having to go back and do it anyways. like the roommate, he'll unload the dishwasher.. and i really appreciate that he helps me out, but he doesn't know where half the stuff goes.. and we've lived here for 3 years lol. also, when he does the silverware, he doesn't put them in the little slots made for each item... its just kinda tossed in there. maybe im just too anal about certain things. i guess i could come out and tell them how to do things but i don't want to come across bitchy or ungrateful for them trying. im also a very soft spoken person and usually try to avoid any type of confrontation... i guess i just need to grow some balls.

i also usually am the one who gets up the trash and takes it. ill sometimes leave it out on the front porch hoping one of them will take it to the dumpster if not, i "remind" them lol.
if it were up to them the trashcan would be overflowing and stinky before they decided to do it.
yeah this topic has gone way off track... sorry i just had to vent lol.

Hi MsPersia....regarding your comment: [QUOTE=Quote ]With regards to the "i'm too tired" excuses that some women give not to have morning sex.......in general women do more housework, childcare, and errand running than men do so tend to be more tired than men when it comes to sex. Many men don't realize how truely UNEQUAL many marriages/cohabitation-type situations are. [/QUOTE]. Let's not deal with "generalities." that is a slippery slope. Why? Because they're all excuses! Sorry, not trying to be an asshole here, but at 43 years old, i've learned that sex, love and intimacy are a decision.

You telling me a woman would rather do the dishes then make love to her mate? That laundry is more important than an hour with her spouse? That all those things you listed, "housework, childcare, etc....place an unequal burden ONLY on the woman?"

You make it sound like all men do is come home, want their dinner on the table, their wife to "put out" anytime, that they are the chauffer, maid and manservant to their husband?" NOT! It's 2004! All those so-called "duties" are NOT forced upon her. If she's a strong woman, she can tell her husband to get off his ass and pick up the kids, or get the dry cleaning or do the dishes - why? because getting all that stuff done will give BOTH time for some "alone time."

I just hear it over and over again - excuses. I repeat. The sooner men and women view sexual intimacy as a PRIORITY, the happier and longer marriages/relationships will last. As long as "chores" come before a few hours of "alone time" we'll have relationships busting up at 50+%.

I'm probably the less experienced person here to be saying anything, but I myself have that same question of how to blow my man's mind. He tells me that all he really wants is a woman's touch. When you asked us how you can blow your man's mind everyone mentioned something with sex. I think it's also about finding the little side things he says that mean alot to him like his favorite place to go, thing to do, and his favorite food. Then off to the side or afterwards just grab him and kiss him with all your heart and just massage his head as you kiss him, kiss his neck his chest, slap his butt, and go down whatever road you two are led to. Feed him some citrus fruit or whatever he likes and most importantly, enjoy the time with him also because however you feel you can surely reciprocate onto him, if I said right. I don't know for sure if it will blow his mind, but I doubt he'd be let down in any way.

[QUOTE=Quote ]Mind-blowing sex takes a little effort - but less, I think, than most people realize. Somebody has to initiate it and the other person has to be willing to respond. It's not a complex formula[/QUOTE]

Exactly!! Sex is as much if not more mental then physical. Just speaking of morning sex. I usually don't like it because I am tired and blah blah blah. Any number of excuses can be used. But if you redirect your thinking and realize that it turns your man on then that should excite you. Get up and brush your teeth, clean the junk out of your eyes, brush your hair down some and go back and pounce on him.

Like Wally's post bascially says its about putting forth some effort. We don't always have sex because we feel like it but we have sex to please and show our partner how much we love them. That in itself should be motivation enough.

Without being critical of anyone who posted, I think this topic can serve as an example of why mind-blowing sex isn't achieved more often.

We're all too quick to run to what we don't like and what's wrong, etc. We took a potentially hot topic and turned it into something sleepy. LOL

Mind-blowing sex takes a little effort - but less, I think, than most people realize. Somebody has to initiate it and the other person has to be willing to respond. It's not a complex formula.

That's what I was trying to describe in my post... if you want to blow your partner's mind, put a little effort into it... focus on the pleasure (not who's tired and smells the worst)... do something a little out of the usual.

Mindblowing sex: call him at work several times during the day and tell him how hot you are... maybe you've slipped a picture of yourself into his briefcase or lunch pail... tell him the kids are going to grandma's and you'll meet him at the door naked with his favorite drink in your hand.

Mindblowing sex: send him an email that's obviously from you but sounds like a sex ad... you'll fulfill his every fantasy.

Mindblowing sex: serve him breakfast in bed and put yourself on the menu.

Oh, in the interest of equality, please note that whereever it says "him" you can insert "her."

Being tired is a reality, but people generally can find energy to do what they want to do... take turns making each other want to do it!

Wally

no i don't really have other issues its just im more of an afternoon or nighttime person.
unless its like a lazy sunday and ive slept till 2 in the afternoon i dont think that counts as morning lol.

if its really morning and i have to go to school or whatever im thinking about getting up to do that. i don't set my alarm an hour early just so i have time to have sex in the morning, id rather sleep. id probably done it the night before.
besides, it would just make me sleepy and want to go back to bed. lol.

It seems this topic has gone from "how to blow a man's mind" to MORNING SEX! hahaha

I LOVE MORNING SEX...that light fog when u sense your lover next to you, their warmth, safety and security that fills you......sorry guys....short of breath or B.O. that would stop a train - not having sex in the morning is B.S.!

I've said it on other posts and i'll say it here - any woman or man who chooses NOT to please their partner because of BAD BREATH, or BEING TIRED has other issues!

WE make time to feed our kids, hell we make sure our DOG is fed. We spend more time it seems cleaning the house or grocery shopping then we do making love with our partners - and we justify it with "Im too busy" or "I'm too tired"

GRrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

No wonder 50% of marriage still endup in divorce - and over SEX or MONEY!

besides
guys wake up w/ a hard on. lol
they can't really NOT think of anything else.

i dunno, i guess it's hard not to think about sex when u wake up with a beautiful girl/woman in your arms. but if i woke up with some hairy, ugly dude (as in dudes in general are just ugly) i probably wouldn't be thinking about it either. and unless the morning breath is really bad, i can overlook it on my part.

i don't care for morning sex either.
my b/f will trying to kiss on me and stuff and he's got bad morning breath. im sure i do too. sex in the morning is the last thing on my mind. lol

Well...you could always try a shotgun, that for sure would blow his mind...litteraly... jk :P
BUt it very much depends on the guy. With mine, it's just very simple things. And they don't even have to be sexual. For instance. Lately my bf and I have been going through lots of shit, people betraying us and all the fun stuff like that. What blew his mind was that I stood by him 100%, and 100% of the time. That I was there for him, and that it made us stronger as a couple.
But if you want sexual thing, a good oral sex just as he woken up and most likely horny could always do the trick.

my girlfriend promised me a morning blow job one time and then ended up not only not doing it, but not being in the mood at all. this was after a night where i ate her out and made her orgasm twice in a row, then she just passed out. talk about blue balls. I'll tell you what blows my mind is girls not being in the mood in the morning. it's the time when i'm generally horniest. but that's just a halfway sarcastic comment.

Maybe tie him up, blindfold him and pleasure him till he can't take any more. that'd blow my mind in a good way. i know my girlfriend blindfolded me once, and that was a lot of fun.

WOW! Now I want someone to do that for me!!!

Wow!

I've enjoyed thinking about this and, unfortunately, I can't decide!

The "right" answer probably has something to do with finding out what your bf's answer might be.

In general terms, the thing that blows my mind is not so much a specific activity, it's an attitude. If you can be confident in your own sexuality... comfortable exploring passion and pleasure...being naked physically and emotionally... all things that can be hard to do with a new partner until you've spent some time together... you'll rock my world.

I once heard a woman describe her Valentine's Day... it started by having a male friend blindfold her bf and deliver him to this "suite" hotel. When he took the blindfold off, he discovered he was presented with her wearing a red teddy, laying on the bed... the entire weekend then became a series of events that included: a massuese coming to the room... room service... a limo picking them up for a fancy dinner... of course most of these events were separated by (or included) some great sex. The theme of the entire weekend was sex. (Did I mention porn flicks in the back of the limo?)

Yeah, it was expensive. LOL

I don't think the events themselves did it. I enjoyed her story (and really envied him LOL) because she was totally focused on pleasure- his, hers, theirs. She didn't, for example, worry about "looking fat" in her Teddy, she accepted the idea that she could and would turn him on... and she didn't have a problem letting him know that giving him pleasure at all levels was orgasmic for her. She created excitement and adventure and just made it all good.

That's pretty incredible, doncha think? LOL

Remember, it's not the scale... I'll bet you could do the same thing in your own apartment. You might be the masseuse... Domino's delivers... just make it clear that you want to turn him on and pleasure him and that it will give you as much pleasure as it will him!

It's not how you touch... it's that you want to touch and you want your touch to be electrifying.

Wally