So I would say that I have a little bit of a premature ejaculation problem. I'd say it only takes me about 3-5 minutes. The problem is, whenever I'm with a girl and we start messing around, she will start a little foreplay and start stroking me while we are just kissing and undressing. Then, when the clothes are finally off and we're ready to go, this stroking has almost gotten me to the point where I need to ejaculate and the actually act of sex/blowjob is over pretty quick. How can I ask her to just start giving me a blowjob, ect. right away without making it sound too creepy?
Fri, 12/05/2008 - 22:01
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How to ask without sounding weird
GOOD NEWS! You do not suffer from PE. If you regularly reached the point of a climax within a minute or so then, yes. What you have here is simply an untimely event.
I recommend that you look at the Index found at the top of the main screen. It contains many insightful helpful useful how-to articles on a variety of subjects.
Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controlling Premature Ejaculation
Give these two a try and if you have additional questions, feel free to ask.
Good luck.
Use a condom. The act of putting one on and the delay should slow you down enough to get several more minutes "inside". Also focus your mind more on getting her so aroused that she glows and will climax in a heartbeat. Get sych'd with her.
Well first of all I always use a condom but I meant more along the lines of the foreplay. Foreplay for too long has been a little too much for me to handle and I was looking for a smooth way to just get right into the act. Any suggestions?
> Foreplay for too long has been a little too much for me to handle and I was looking for a smooth way to just get right into the act. Any suggestions?
This is a question that has also been addressed in one or more articles listed in the Index.
One way to extend foreplay is to pause, let your sense of immediacy subside and then continue on, repeating as long as desired.
One way to shorten foreplay is to pause, let your sense of immediacy subside and the move around and get into position. Because your arousal has slipped back down your arousal curve from the plateau, you will be highly aroused, yet below peak where you tend to loose control quickly.
Some women need lots of foreplay and some others do not. There's nothing wrong with being a "quick starter" or a "slow starter" - not in and of itself.
If she needs more foreplay and stimulation than you do, just give her more and have her give you less. Is that enormously difficult? There's no rule that one partner can't stimulate another one unless they're both doing it to each other at the same time. Indeed, I think it's a lot more comfortable, practical and generally successful to go down on women in a "right side up" (clit on top) position than 69. That is, depending on your and her preferences, with her lying on her back, and you down "below" her or with her sitting on your face. You can also come at her from behind when she's on her hands and knees if you want, though that seems kind of awkward to me (and it's upside down again).
If you think you're already too wound up by the time your clothes come off, go down on her for a while. You don't really have to ask, you can just do it. If you feel a need (or she forces you) to explain, just say you want to devote 100% of your attention to pleasing her, or she's got you so excited you want to hold off and get her just as excited, or whatever explanation makes sense. If you and she are so inclined, you might make her come this way before you even have intercourse.