I want to tell my boyfriend what I want him to do; the only thing I can think of to say to myself, is - JUST SAY IT.
He was performing Oral on me one night and it felt wonderful- I came just to the edge, I was there but I couldn't get past it. I know that for me, when I masturbate I directly stimulate my clitoris- but how do I tellh im that directly? We were doing it that one night and I never managed it (we were worried about our location)(his car) and he asked me if I had orgasmed and I said "no" honestly.
He sat back and smoked a cigarette and said he didn't know what he was doing wrong with me (as his past girlfriends have all apperently orgasmed) and I told him that it wasn't him it was rather; me.
I told him I like it when he touches me there and that I enjoy it when he uses his teeth, or makes small circles. I love it when he uses a combination of his tongue and his fingers- but I want him to focus on my clitoris- how can I say that without offending him?
I've mastered masturbation (and orgasm regularly with that alone) so I know what an orgasm feels like, so I'm not new to that expierance. And I've never done anything with anyone until him (only fingered once adn that was painful); the spiritual connection I have with him is great- and physically, even greater (if possible).
I just don't know how to swallow my pride and say it without... you know? It's great what he does to me, but I'd really like it if I was able to go home at night truly satisfied and not have to handle the job on my own all the time, you understand? I'm not insulting him either... I just don't know how to even ask this, haha XD
I recommend two approaches. First, as he's performing on you be sure to tell him what feels good and what doesn't. Don't be shy about it. If you like more pressure in clitoral stimulation (for example) then tell him while he's doing it. When it comes to pleasing her most men are ready recipients for his woman's input. Second, as you've mastered masterbation you could show him what you like. Using his finger, guide him with your hand to the areas you like most (and use lube to enhance the sensation for you). He'll be able to move on from that point. I know this approach worked for me with a particular woman I was with some time ago. Good luck.
You cold try just being honest with him. Remember that boys/men don't just magically know all the things that they need to know. If you know that clitoral stimulation is what does it for you.....then TELL HIM. You don't need to be rude or bossy about it. Just take one of his fingers in your hand and guide it to your clit and tell him in a very sincere way, that this is the spot for him to concentrate on. Tell him that you enjoy everything that he does and would like him to continue to give some attention to the other areas, but THIS SPOT is what will make you achieve an orgasm. I'm sure that he'd like to have that information. When he does begin to give you oral in the clitoris area make sure you indicate your pleasure and if you are close to orgasm and he moves away from there, explain that he needs to keep doing what was IT for you. I doubt that he is avoiding your clit on purpose. He's probably trying everywhere looking for a sweet spot that you'll give him a good reaction to. He'll probably be as pleased as you are when he is finally able to bring you to orgasm, as for most guys seeing you pleasured gives us a lot of satisfaction.