how to take it in the missonary postion

[luvtosuck]

I can take my lovers in just about any postion..but for some reason
I cant seem to take it the missonary postion.without some discomfort
we have tried all kinds of pillows..and he really wants it that way..help!!

[nexstar3]

Hey Love to suck,

Have you tried the missonry-inverted. when you are on top.
its almost the same feeling but you re in charge

[RedRoses]

Welcome to this forum!
Is your problem that he can't get in? Or that he doesn't stay in? Any thoughts on how you're not aligned properly? It seems like you've found a solution, but this is not a comfortable one. What is it? Could make it easier to find an alternative

Have you looked at the sexpositions-guide? All Sex Positions | SexInfo101.com This could give you some ideas on how to variate missionary. You may like to know what it is about missionary that makes it something he likes. Cause that makes it more clear what you could variate on. Preferably; just go over this guide together.

A few hints;
-Relax; perhaps you're cramping up?
-What works best for me is to raise one or two legs, like in the deckchair or folded deckchair position. A bonus; more chance he hits your g-spot!
-What also could work is putting your feet against his chest and he leans forward a bit; it sorta tilts your hips automatically. The higher you put your feet and the more he leans forward, the more you become like a little ball and your butt could even be automatically lifted of the mattress (see: launch pad-position) Chose yourselves what degree you need and what's comfy for both.
-Another option; wrap your legs around him and don't be afraid to pull him into you. It's called "deep stick" in the position-guide.
-Or plant your feet into the mattress and push your lower body up a little. Like the arch-position, but you really don't have to go that high; just enough to get P and V at the same level. He should be supporting you with his hands under your butt or use a pillow to fill the void under you.
-You've used pillows, yet; how? Having a small roll-pillow under your hips can at times be more effective than those big ordinary pillows. The latter tend to elevate your entire lower body, instead of raising your hips and tilting them slightly.
-Think outside the box! Or; outside the bed He could be off the bed, check examples: butterfly, down stroke, deep impact.
-Last but not least; you're doing this together. He could be adjusting himself in many ways; bringing his knees closer together or further apart, raising his upperbody or down, tilting his hips, arching his back, making short instead of long strokes, etc.

And just to let you know; you two are not alone in this. We failed miserably the first times we put him on top, even though he had lots of experience. It's just that two bodies align differently between each couple. And even though I get that you'd like to achieve this position, try to not to focus on it. Sex is supposed to be about pleasure! It could very well be other positions are more suitable and pleasurable for the both of you. Experiment and enjoy!

[Aphrodite_66]

Yes please explore other options,missionary is not always the best position.My partner and I also have trouble with this,mainly keeping him in.I find that as RR suggested that if I wrap my legs tightly around him and pull him in close we have better results.
It is also true to say that all couples go together differently.I never had any trouble in the missionary position with my ex husband(yes we are now officially divorced...hooray).He was a little smaller than my new partner,but not by all that much.I do tend to get very wet and he slips out rather easily.Again with my ex husband this never happened as I hardly ever got wet enough to achieve orgasm.There was little if any foreplay and I barely got out of first gear.He would come quickly then roll over and go to sleep.Not the same issues with my new partner.Sure he rolls over and goes to sleep when he is done,but not before pleasuring me first.He won't stop till i'm in top gear and begging him to slow down.

[bubbakev87]

As a guy I know it took me several times to where I was able to penetrate my gf in the missionary position but it became her favorite position. have you tried having him kneal with ur legs around him and him on his forarms?