How do you know if you're lesbian/bi/queer/etc?

[Andi B]

How do you know if your a lesbo or bi? I can't figure out if i'm straight or what. I like guys and girls then same, and I don't really care if they're trans or shemales or whatever. I'm a 14 year old girl, so there's some room for error. Could I get some help?

[Ducy]

If you posted this in the right section (since this isn't the news...) you probably could get some help.

Oh and reading the articles under the "Bi, Gay, Lesbian" category may help

[dancingdoc2]

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At your age you have just passed thru puberty and are now at a stage in your development and maturing that explores your burgeoning sexuality. Over the course of the next decade or so, you will no doubt have different feelings about this, so go with each and see where it leads you, until perhaps, you have a different outlook about life, love, romance, and sex.

Here is the key: your sexuality and whether you are Gay or Straight is predicated strictly upon who you are attracted to as a person. If you are only attracted to women, then you can consider yourself Lesbian; if you are only attracted to men, then you are Heterosexual; if you have an interest in members of both genders to one degree or another then you can consider yourself Bisexual. Are you mostly straight yet curious about members of the same gender? Bi-curious.

I recommend that you read each of the articles listed in the Index and add the information to what you already know. Knowledge is empowering.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc

[Andi B]

What do they call it if you like boys, girls, trans, shemales, etc. etc. etc.? A queer? Is that true?

[Firmus]

Well, Wikipedia gave me the term pansexuality, also known as omnisexuality, which takes you outside the scope of the binary male/female genders. It must be real, they have a flag and everything.

Pansexuality - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

[Andi B]

Oh... Okay thanks.

[johnweek1]

At your age it might not be so concrete. What can further complicate matters is if you feel MORE strongly towards one gender over the other. Take me for example. I am a 26 year old male. I am attracted to woman in every sense of the word, but I also have a side thing for guys. I could never, ever, ever see myself cuddling, kissing, hugging, or making out with a guy. I will never participate in anal sex with another guy. But, I do love oral play with men.

It took me many years to truly define my sexuality, and even now I still ponder it from time to time. I decided to identify my own sexuality with the literal definition of "Bisexual."

Noun 1. bisexual - a person who is sexually attracted to both sexes.

I could never have romantic feelings towards a man, but oral sex with another guy is great and is very desirable. Based on that definition of "bisexual" up above, that would classify me as one whom is bi.

Being sexually attracted to both genders does not mean you have to be romantically attracted to both genders. No where in that definition does it mention romance, only sexuality.

Sex is always better, from my experience, when there is passion in it. But sex and passion are two different things, and trying to combine then under one label is in my opinion, a mistake we as a society tend to make.

Hope I was of any help.