My Girlfriend and my fantasys

[prideofthewest]

I have only ever had the one girlfriend and we have been going out for near two years and have been having sex for one.

I really love having sex with her and oral sex. She isn't really in to trying more adventerous things like anal and though recently she lets me cum in her mouth which we use not to do.... when we do have oral sex I like to lick her anus and she does let me.

How do I get her to have anal? she isn't 100% against it and I'm sure her mind can be changed ( she would do it to please me but I want her to want it too). I think a threesome is definately out of the question!

As to my fantasys I often watch bi-sexual porn and shemale porn as much as say my other perhaps (kind of more normal? ) interests like mature lesbians. When I masterbate I get turned on by all of the above but know I prefer a woman but I would engage in sex with say a woman and a man.... I couldn't love a man for sure... am I bi?

[Brandye]

Fantasize all you want. All people have limits on sexual activity and anal is one that many women object to. They do so with good medical reason. Do a search and you will find many discussions of anal sex, its good and bad points. I never have and never shall allow penetration but do enjoy anal stimulation.

Read around.

[dancingdoc2]

This begs the question: anal what?
* Stimulation?
* Intercourse?

As Brandye has stated, men and women do have boundaries, such as:
* never ever under any circumstances touch, lick, finger, or penetrate the anus
* touch and lick only
+ finger penetration
+ dildo (toy) penetration

and then there are men and women who are OK and embrace anal intercourse.

Please respect whatever limit you partner has and do not whine or cajole her into doing more than which she is comfortable doing.

People who do touch, finger, and/or use a dildo discover that the resulting sensations are very intense and can contribute a lot to the triggering of an orgasm!

Penetration, be it a finger, dildo, and/or penis must be done correctly and with care, otherwise, the person on the receiving end can experience pain, discomfort, or be injured. Please read this article found in the Index for how-to information:

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

For men, massaging the prostate gland when approaching and close to an orgasm is exquisitely pleasurable and often will boost the intensity of the resulting orgasm!

For men and women, anal stimulation of whatever form should mainly be done only after s/he has attained a high level of arousal for best results--and! willingness to proceed.

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you will enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to information that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. In addition, if you click on the site's Home Page, you will find even more information.

I recommend that the two of you read every article, either together or individually, discuss what you have learned, then add the information to what each of you already knows. Knowledge is empowering.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc

[prideofthewest]

no that's great thanks!

[NagyApu]

One of the problems with porn is that it often does not portray anything like the reality of sex as it is experienced by most couples. The frequency of anal in these movies is a clear example of this. In the movies a couple initiates anal with no anal foreplay and no apparent lubrication.

In the real world many couples never do anal and many of those who do work up to it very slowly. For the time being recognize that there are thousands of sexual variations to be enjoyed so don’t get hung up on just one.

[LustyLisa]

Pide, your partner isn't reponsible for your fantasies nor is she at all responsible to act them out for your benefit only. You seem both ignorant and selfish even if you don't intend to be. When one partner attempts to change the other partner's mind that clearly shows lack of regard for the other person and it's her body you want to exploit and violate. There's a big differance between oral/anal stimulation and anal penetration and the negative side effects falls on the one being penetrated. Since you are so interested in anal, why don't you turn around and bend over for her to shove something large and hard up your anus? Really show her how pleasureable it's going to be! Maybe that will give you a sincere perspective on her reluctance and will certainly make you more gentle and caring if and when you get her consent to violate her anally. Unless you are willing to allow adventure and exploration your own anus by your partner, you should accept "NO" until she wants to on her own. And, just because you do it doesn't mean she has to do it too. Respect your partner's boundaries or leave her alone if your selfish desires are more important than that.

[arkulani]

its not all about the sex.its the feelings that matters most.when you get old.those sex would be gone. commitment and friendship will be there.wait for the right time.


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[masterdark116]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

This begs the question: anal what?
* Stimulation?
* Intercourse?

As Brandye has stated, men and women do have boundaries, such as:
* never ever under any circumstances touch, lick, finger, or penetrate the anus
* touch and lick only
+ finger penetration
+ dildo (toy) penetration

and then there are men and women who are OK and embrace anal intercourse.

Please respect whatever limit you partner has and do not whine or cajole her into doing more than which she is comfortable doing.

People who do touch, finger, and/or use a dildo discover that the resulting sensations are very intense and can contribute a lot to the triggering of an orgasm!

Penetration, be it a finger, dildo, and/or penis must be done correctly and with care, otherwise, the person on the receiving end can experience pain, discomfort, or be injured. Please read this article found in the Index for how-to information:

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

For men, massaging the prostate gland when approaching and close to an orgasm is exquisitely pleasurable and often will boost the intensity of the resulting orgasm!

For men and women, anal stimulation of whatever form should mainly be done only after s/he has attained a high level of arousal for best results--and! willingness to proceed.

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you will enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to information that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. In addition, if you click on the site's Home Page, you will find even more information.

I recommend that the two of you read every article, either together or individually, discuss what you have learned, then add the information to what each of you already knows. Knowledge is empowering.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc

Great answer!
I have tried with my girlfriend and it's successfull