Bisexual virgin

[Purpleflwr]

I'm 19 years old and I've never had sex with anyone and I'm not rushing to have sex. I think that's sort of abnormal because everyone I know has already lost their virginity. I've had relationships with a few guys and I usually did not like them so I always ended the relationship. During the last year I've noticed that I'm attracted to women. When I see a beautiful woman my breathing becomes shallow and I get kinda nervous. I also noticed that I'm very nice to females while I'm always defensive with guys. Am I bisexual? I feel like I am but people tell me that I could only know that after I've had sexual relationships with both sexes. If I am bisexual how can jump into the world of lesbian exploration?

[sensualGoddess]

The same way you did in a hetero

You hug
You kiss

and in your case since you don't want to dive into sex just yet

you dry hump.

I don't know what exactly indicates that you lose your virginity in a same sex relationship...as a matter of fact...

You might want to take with the residential experts on this one. I've never pondered this until you put this post up.

[Purpleflwr]

Thanks! I'd rather hump with no clothes on tho ;-) sounds like I'm ready for the sex or just horny. I have tried to explore but I seem to fall for straight girls that eventually become friends and I've found that lesbians hate bi-curious girls. *sigh*

[big916]

then you need to find some lesbians/bi girls that just want to have fun. they don't hate bi-curious girls, they just don't want to get emotionally involved with someone that isn't even sure they can like them.

[Purpleflwr]

Thanks, I completely understand. So am I def bi? Or do I have to have sex with both sexes to truly know?

[pcp71]

in many places the definition isn't in the experimentation, but what you enjoy going back to. I smoked about half a pack of cigarettes 19 years ago and decided it wasn't for me, but that didn't define me as a smoker. If you wish to have an experience or two with another willing female, that won't define you as bi or lesbian unless you want it to or tell people that you are.
This is a bit easier for girls many times in that lesbian experimenting is more socially acceptable than guy-guy experimentation without being labeled as gay

[Purpleflwr]

:-) sounds like your telling me that labels do not matter and to just do what makes me feel good. Thank you!

[big916]

not knowing from personally experience, maybe. do you have sexual thoughts when looking at both sexes? have you ever watched girl on girl porn? if so what did you think or did you do anything?

i know i am hetero because i can look at a woman and think how she would feel during sex. how good her lips would feel on me ect ect. if you feel this way for both genders then i would say the chances you are bi but who cares. i had thoughts before of what it would be like to recieve oral from a man, but i never feel like i could go through with it. i just like women too much.

think of you as not limiting yourself on who you can love or have fun with. people i know say they usually have a preference for one, but if everything works well between them and their non preferred gender then they let it happen.

[pcp71]

I'm saying not to call your self a lesbain until you've tried it and decide you like it, if it didn't even interest you at some level you would be considered strait by most, but the fact that you are thinking about it gives you enough reason to go out and try it.
If it turns out not to be your thing at least you know, if it turns out to be something you like, then go with what you enjoy, it's not just about making yourself feel good, but doing what will make you happy overall

[Brandye]

I have lived parts of my life (longer than most here) as a lesbian and other parts as a straight woman. I have not figured it out and have better things to do with my time than worry about it. Live .... the rest will take care of itself.