making out with another woman, am i bi?

[epicsexy]

I've always found women attractive, but I never thought I was really bisexual. Last night I made out with a really hot girl for the first time and it really turned me on. She and I even took turns making out with my fiance and we danced and touched all over eachother. It was just really amazing, I never thought i would really enjoy this, does this mean I'm bi? I'm sure there are a lot of posts on this, but nothing would show up.

[big916]

If you feel that you must be put into a box then yes I think you are atleast bi-curious. Enjoy it and explore your desires.

[Thecalliton]

sit down and TALK with her
your feelings wont sort out as easily unless you talk to her (if she is bi or a lesbian)
Talking to someone else who is attracted to the same gender can help, and they might even be willing to slowly take you through the motions of "gay" sex

[Brandye]

It means you had a wonderful experience with another woman in a particular setting. Does this mean you are Bi-. Who knows? I have been actively bi for a few decades and I still do not know the answer.

[Thecalliton]

to add to my earlier post:
A good test to see if you are bi (doesnt always mean you are, but it can help) is to try masturbating to pictures/porn of gay sex involving your gender only, or solos of someone of the same gender.

But this isnt 100% effective since some people have what i have deemed "Empathy Horny" where you might be turned on by the sight of someone of the same gender getting off, but arent exactly attracted to them.

Try just thinking about women in sexual context and think about how you feel.

[Brandye]

I trust, cal, that that is not a serious suggestion.

[epicsexy]

Thank your for the replies Cal and Brandye. Cal, I have actually done this before. I rarely watch porm, id rather have the real thing; however if he is not around to please me, I watch it. Weirdly I'm very picky about the porn I watch, I have to be attracted to both partner, either straight or lesbian porn.

I dont see myself ever actually dating someone of the same gender, so I'm not going to say I'm bi or completely straight, I'm just me, a very loving person who likes to have a good time lol

[Thecalliton]

Originally Posted by Brandye

I trust, cal, that that is not a serious suggestion.

why not? the mind is a powerful thing, and thinking about something can help you figure out your opinion of it, your feelings, or what you like about it.


and epic, you dont have to date someone of the same gender to experiment
just talk it over with your man first.


edit: @Brandye, I merely suggested it because it helped me some. It is like taking a deep breath of fresh air when freaking out. It works for some, and not for others. I apologize deeply if I offended or bothered you

[WandT]

my fiance' loves looking at women, finds them very hot and has always wondered what it would be like to be with another woman, especially one that went down on her, she wants to be the recipient first, then service her. We talk about it sometimes when were in the middle of sex, it's a hot scene to talk about, she thinks she is at least bi-curious, she said "If I try it, what if I like it?"....I said "Well, I guess your bi-sexual and we may have to talk about bringing in a third person".....she was like "Uh, no, it'll have to stay a fantasy, but ya never know if the situation is right, I just might"

[noirblanc]

There's a forum member here who is studying psychology right now and has done many papers specifically on the topic of bisexuality (surprisingly, many major psychologist/sociologist openly admitted to omitting bisexual behaviour in their studies because it over complicated their theories, such a Freud). She's hoping to eventually complete a PhD in the field of sexual therapy with a specialty in bisexuality. If she sees this she might be able to give some input. Supposedly, through her studies, she has found there are over a half dozen types of bisexuality.

I'll ask her if she minds chiming in if she has anything to add.