Sex with a Tgirl

[kfmeer]

I am currently dating a very hot and passable Tgirl. She does modeling, photo shoots and videos but will not go out in public as a "girl". How do I convince her to be seen in public as a woman? I would really like to go out and "show her off" in public. What do I do?

[Ducy]

I'm confused are you talking about a transexual? Or transvestite?

If they are a transexual, then is the person in question originally a woman or originally a man, and furthermore are they pre or post op? I am just confused because they don't want to go out in public as a "girl" but they do photoshoots.

You really can't convince anyone to do anything. Just let them know that you would like them to do something, but don't push. That is the key. You push them in a corner they run and fight. You give them freedom and a little positive reinforcement and their curiosity gets the best of them and they wind up "trying" it.

[kfmeer]

She is a TV. She likes being a "girl" but doesn't want the hormones and surgery. I do try to be supportive and positive but right now she won't even consider going out in public.

[big916]

ok lets make this clear, you refer to this person as she not he. does this person believe they are in the wrong body (meaning that the person is a transgender)? or does this person just like dressing up as a woman?

[Ducy]

Lol I got my terms mixed up. I meant TS or TV. So your dating a man who likes to dress like a woman? Are you a woman or a man?

[kfmeer]

You are confusing me! OK, I refer to "her" as she because that is the way "she" refers to herself. "She" is a man who dresses as a woman, acts as a woman, and wants to be treated as a woman. "She" just doesn't want the hassle of hormones and surgery. I asked for advice and I am getting semantics.

[Ducy]

No I'm just genuinely confused, not trying to lecture you on semantics. I just wanted to better understand the situation.

[kfmeer]

I am a man; dating a man who lives, dresses and wants to be treated as a woman. "She" does not want to take hormones or have a sex change because of "her" daughter. (I don't know why) "She" does everything else as a woman, even goes to the bathroom as a woman. "She" does Tgirl modeling and videos but "she" won't out in public because "she" is afraid of being judged. I am supportive, positive and complimentary but "she" still hesitates. OK- how do I get her to be seen in public?

[Ducy]

try drag shows. This could very easily help open her up to being seen in public. Some people look at cross dressing as "shameful". I mean there are plenty of people who don't want to be seen with their gay partners, this could be the same thing since society deems crossdressing as bad.

Plus he has a daughter. What if he gets caught as a she and the daughter finds out? Will she hate him? Be disgusted? He's her dad and its his job to be the "man" but how can he do it if he is a woman? I mean all you can really do is keep your fingers crossed and keep up the words of encouragement and support. But don't be surprised if he doesn't wanna go into public as a she for a while. This is like coming out as gay. For some its easy. For others its difficult.

[Brandye]

Irrespective of the earlier semantics issues, things do not sound quite proper. You label this thread "Sex with a TGirl" but are really interested in public display and "even uses the bathroom as a woman" does not seem to fit. Whilst home, it does not matter; out of the home dressed as a man, she has no choice.

She seems to living as she wishes; why change that for her? It is rare to see womeone who so completely passes for both man and woman.