i need help!!!???

[ajfinsc]

i have a girlfriend of three years and she has been gone for 5 months and i have tried anal play with toys and then i start to watch guys gets fucked with a strapon and i like to see this and then i watch gay porn and this got me really hard and i have been talking to a male friend who is bi. he i told him i wanted to try oral both ways and maybe anal both ways but i really want to get fucked. but i am worried when my girlfriend gets back she will not want me any more but i want him in me. i have set up something in a week so if anyone can give me tips on how to handle giving oral and taking anal with a guy i would thank you so much.

[Brandye]

Let us start with protecting yourself. Most STDs, including HIV, can be transmitted orally, anally and genitally equally. His semen will be in your mouth or your rectum - both good places to culture either bacteria or virus. That will be a great coming home gift for your girlfriend! It is unethical, inhuman actually, to not let any sex partner know what risk she or he is taking.

[ajfinsc]

i have the condoms and lube but i want to suck him off and i want him to suck my dick but i am on the fence when i have a few drinks in me i can mess around and play with guys dicks and get turned on but i wonder if i have sex with him will i still want my gf when she gets back.

[dancingdoc2]

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> i want to suck him off and i want him to suck my dick but i am on the fence when i have a few drinks in me i can mess around and play with guys dicks and get turned on but i wonder if i have sex with him will i still want my gf when she gets back.

Begin by first talking about what it is the two of you want to do, then set up a time and a place. Instead of getting a buzz on, just relax with each other, fool around and make out, all before getting down to genital play. You do not need to drink, first. If you think you need to, then you are not going about the arousal aspect correctly. If you spend time making out, you will be comfortable and aroused, and lose your inhibitions.

Please read my reply in your other post.

As for playing with a guy's dick and get turned on, to quote you, you've got it backwards as noted, above. Fool around and make out, first to get turned on, then advance to Foreplay then intercourse if you want.

Even though you know how to masturbate, I suggest reading the article that discusses the how-to of it because when it comes to stimulating a partner, there can be some major differences. Learn about giving each other feedback. Learn to vary the way you stroke a penis so that there is variety and spice and anticipation and excitement building. Don't just go for the climax like you probably so often do by yourself.

Discuss with your potential male partner whether or not anal intercourse is the goal, or, if one or both of you can be satisfied with fingering and/or toys. Many women and men, also, draw the line at inserting a penis for various safety reasons. These are also discussed if you read thru the Index or do a search of the forums.

After having sex with someone else other than your regular partner, will you want anybody else? Dunno. Who can say. Each person, each situation will be different and present different circumstances. Choosing a partner has little to do with gender and more to do with compatibility and desire.

Please read the articles that discuss dating and how best to go about it correctly. It is not unusual for people to date more than one person at a time. It is also predictable that some people will have sex with more than one person at a time while dating more than one person at a time.

There is nothing to say a person cannot have a FWB or recreational sex with someone and a loving relationship with someone else all at the same time.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

-doc