bi...?

[mellohello]

First off, i apologize if i sound ignorant in anyway, because well i am. i also dont want to offend anyone and if i do it is completely unintentional and ill apologize in advance.

I think i might be bi, or even a lesbian. I don't know. I have always been more open with girls, but then i like to hang around a lot of guys... i have dated 2 guys but other than that i haven't had any relationship experience. its like im attracted to both but i don't really know if its a phase or something. im a freshman in hs and i'm really close with some of my girl friends and i dont know if i like one of them... i've been called a lesbian because of how i act with my friends, we hold hands in the hall and we hug a lot and because i go to a small school where people are very ignorant. there have been couple of times where my friend ashley and i have joked around and she would say something like if you were a guy id go out with you and i dont know... its like there are times we hug and i dont want to let go.... but she's straight and is currently going out with my ex bf, which im totally fine with. but i feel like if i tell her or anyone of my friends that i feel this way, they might not act the same around me. i wouldnt blame them i just dont want them to become distant. im not crushing on my other friends that i hold hands with and hug, its just her. not to mention the fact that i am also crushing on my guy friend that ive known since third grade and im just very confused. and was wondering if i could have some advice. I don't know how to deal with these feelings.

[big916]

well ashley is straight so it probably wouldn't be a good idea to tell her those feelings if she isnt even bi curious. no matter the gender or sexual preference i think a friend liking the other and they dont feel the same could make the friendship awkward. you have to ask yourself is the risk of telling her how you feel about her worth possibly not having the same friendship. see what your guy friend thinks about you. he must like your personality and you two get along well since your friends so see what he thinks about being in a relationship with you. he may have always thought you were cute but never made a move. hope the best for you.

[Thecalliton]

girls tend to hold hands and hug. That is nothing out of the ordinary. I go to a christian school with one of the most anti homosexual views ever. And the girls will hug and cuddle. Now im not anti gay, infact im bi-curious. So go find someone to experiment with, you might be surprised!

[Brandye]

There was a study many years ago involving homosexual contact in English school residences. The women were much more likely than men to have same sex contact - almost a third of the group. But, most of them went on to become very traditional wives and mothers.

It is not uncommon for women have same sex contact. It is, after all, safer than heterosexual intercourse. There is really nothing t be dealt with. It may be a few years before you really know which way to go. Welcome to female adolescence.