Homosexual but not really, how should I call that?

[Barely18Guy]

So I've been telling to those I trust enough that I am straight, but I actually have an open mind.

What I mean is that, since many girls love giving head, I thought I'd try it too, and except for feeling gay at the moment, I really didn't found that disturbing at all... it was actually good to make a friend feel good. I know that anal is also great for men too, and I received it too. Both of these happened only once, but I'd do it again.

I don't say I'm bi because I actually am not sexually aroused by men, I just would have sex just for fun. Am I correct when I say "Not gay but open minded" Or should I just tell people I'm bi?

[dancingdoc2]

My definitions for the following are:

* Heterosexual = interest in and sexually attracted only to members of the opposite gender

* Homosexual = interest in and sexually attracted only to members of the same gender

* Bi-sexual = interest in and able to become sexually attracted to people of both genders

* Bi-curious = interest in and passing curiosity about the sexuality and sexual interaction of people of the same gender.
(There may or may not be any emotional component.)

> I don't say I'm bi because I actually am not sexually aroused by men, I just would have sex just for fun. Am I correct when I say "Not gay but open minded" Or should I just tell people I'm bi?

As noted, above, I'd place you in the Bi-curious category. Mostly straight, partially curious about same gender relationships, sexual primarily, otherwise, perhaps, or, perhaps not.

This may be a passing phase, or, it may continue; whatever works for you.

[RedRoses]

Dear Barely18Guy,
I can understand you want to be able to define yourself.
However; maybe you don't need to squeeze yourself into a tightly fitting box with a label.
Maybe you just need to be "you". Just be "open minded". I think that term is better than any other

[Barely18Guy]

Alright, thanks to both of you. I like sayign that I'm open-minded... I'm a bit insecure in that whole story... but I guess I'll feel better as time goes.

[dancingdoc2]

> it was actually good to make a friend feel good.

Was this just raw sex or were there any emotions involved?

> I know that anal is also great for men too, and I received it too.

There is anal play and anal intercourse. Many people enjoy the feelings derived from play {rimming, fingering, dildos, prostate massage) yet draw the line at not having a penis inserted. Please read the articles listed in the Index about all this for more information.

> Both of these happened only once, but I'd do it again.

Was this a one time fling with this friend? Do either/both of you want to continue exploring the possibilities and making each other feel good? What about finding one or more other sexual partners for future escapades?

> actually am not sexually aroused by men, I just would have sex just for fun.

This is an interesting statement for the following reasons:
1. If true, what is the payoff for you?
2. When we masturbate we generally only attain a medium level of arousal, yet when we participate with someone else, our level of sexual tension and arousal increases dramatically. When there is "chemistry" between two individuals, the intensity is generally off the charts.

Tell me that when you and your friend played around with each other, you discovered that you were turned on much more than had you been home alone taking matters into your own hand so to speak. My point being, if you can find a sexual partner who turns you on by their very essence, then all the better.

[Barely18Guy]

> Was this just raw sex or were there any emotions involved?

It was raw sex.

> There is anal play and anal intercourse. Many people enjoy the feelings derived from play {rimming, fingering, dildos, prostate massage) yet draw the line at not having a penis inserted. Please read the articles listed in the Index about all this for more information.

I apologize for that, it was intercourse.

> Was this a one time fling with this friend? Do either/both of you want to continue exploring the possibilities and making each other feel good? What about finding one or more other sexual partners for future escapades?

It was a one time fling, I doubt that it'll ever happen again, he doesn't seem like he would like to. I would do it with other sexual partners.

> 1. If true, what is the payoff for you?
2. When we masturbate we generally only attain a medium level of arousal, yet when we participate with someone else, our level of sexual tension and arousal increases dramatically. When there is "chemistry" between two individuals, the intensity is generally off the charts.

1. I must like giving head, and I thought he would do it a bit better.
2. I guess that him being a good friend of mine made it easier, maybe I feel some arousal towards men, but I'm sure that it's not a fraction of what I feel towards women.

It was indeed more pleasurable for me than "taking matters into my own hand". I enjoyed it and would do it again, if guaranteed a slight improvement from the other person.

[dancingdoc2]

> It was a one time fling, I doubt that it'll ever happen again, he doesn't seem like he would like to. I would do it with other sexual partners.

If you decide to actively try, again, this is a way of deciding just how open minded you really are, and, a way of acquiring experience.

> > 1. If true, what is the payoff for you?
2. When we masturbate we generally only attain a medium level of arousal, yet when we participate with someone else, our level of sexual tension and arousal increases dramatically. When there is "chemistry" between two individuals, the intensity is generally off the charts.

> 1. I must like giving head, and I thought he would do it a bit better.

Male or female, a sexual partner enters each encounter or relationship with varying amounts of experience and accumulated expertise. Please read the article about this topic.

> 2. I guess that him being a good friend of mine made it easier, maybe I feel some arousal towards men, but I'm sure that it's not a fraction of what I feel towards women.

Maybe yes, maybe no. Much depends upon the "chemistry" between partners regardless of gender.

> It was indeed more pleasurable for me than "taking matters into my own hand". I enjoyed it and would do it again, if guaranteed a slight improvement from the other person

Practice, practice, practice, with each and every partner. There are no guarantees that a partner will become better, although, practicing improves their chances. So too does working together and telling a partner how you are responding to his/her caresses, and, for what you need now/next.

[Barely18Guy]

Well yesterday I freaked myself out. I actually saw a picture of a friend of mine on facebook and found him cute, perhaps got a bit turned on... I guess I'm becoming bi, only the future will tell.

It's not so bad, but I surprised myself.

[ArianaCary]

Wow very good.Plus its very confusing discovering your sexual identity. I have had my bi curious thoughts. I am straight but incredibly open. I once kissed a guy in a bet with 2 girls. I kiss him they get with me! I was in no way aroused by the man, but the two ladies were arousing lol.
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[dancingdoc2]

Has anybody consulted the Index of articles and read this one?

Male / Female Sexual Behavior--If I like certain things does this mean I'm Gay?