so confused its crazy

[runeasy]

Hi so this is it i guess,(im a guy by the way)

im really confused about my sexuality and have been for a while now. and i cant seem to figure it out. maybe you can help...in order to keep it short and sweet here iswhats confusing me.

so im not attracted to men emotionally,never had a crush on a friend and never thought that id like to be in a relatioship with one either, and still dont, however i find myself fantasizing about gay sex when i masterbate

i am attracted to women emotionaly and physically and enjoy being in relationships with them , have been with many women but recently the thought of sex with a woman doesnt really turn me on.
itslike i like the female body but i also like the penis....i have absolutly no idea whats going on here,

couldany of you shed some light on this ? thx

[dancingdoc2]

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> im not attracted to men emotionally, never had a crush on a friend and never thought that id like to be in a relationship with one either, and still dont, however i find myself fantasizing about gay sex when i masterbate

A fantasy is just that. Most of us have them, and the scripts vary from person to person and from one period to another in a person's life. Fantasies are harmless--even the bizarre ones, unless possibly acted upon.

> i am attracted to women emotionaly and physically and enjoy being in relationships with them , have been with many women but recently the thought of sex with a woman doesnt really turn me on.

Consider that you have not yet found someone who turns your head, or turns you on, let alone finding Ms. Right. This is what dating should be all about, learning about what humanity has to offer us. Dating should not begin and end with the first warm body who expresses an interest in us.

When you find someone who not only turns your head, and, in which pheromones fly between you, the thought of sex with a woman will turn you on. If you were Gay, then these attractions would be the result of a particular male individual with whom you come into contact. Sure, you would find certain woman attractive, possibly having social interactions with one or more of them, yet there would not be the sexual attraction.

Bisexuality is a mix of possible interest in both genders. This does not mean that all men and all women will be attractive to you--certainly not, and no more or less so than if you were straight and in a "jungle" of women~! Being Bi- means that when the right individual comes along, male or female, you can be physically, emotionally, and, sexually attracted to her/him.

Being Bi-curious is generally described as a person who is fundamentally heterosexual yet is curious about a relationship (or having sex) with someone of the same gender. You might say that this is taking a fantasy to the next level, if a person does fantasize about this.

Being Bi-curious is generally a transitory state, meaning once a person's curiosity about kissing or engaging in making out, foreplay, or having intercourse, is satisfied, be it with one or more than one individual, they return to developing straight relationships. From your description, I'd venture to guess that this is where you are.

Here is an article that may help you with respect to sexual likes and dislikes:

Male / Female Sexual Behavior--If I like certain things does this mean I'm Gay?

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

[Brandye]

Many men, and women, go through this. Time will tell. As you gain comfort with whatever your orientation really is, it will become clear to you. Do not force it in any direction.