does this mean I'm gay

[bibifornow]

I'll try to get right to the point. I enjoy being penertrated. But I am not atracted to men. To make a long story short I use to be in love with a pre op transexual. She was a top. There for I experienced the pleasure of being penertrated. I really liked the way it felt. But she moved out of state and we broke up. Eventually I started craving to be penertrated I used toys but it wasn't the same so I started having sex with men. Now I have been having sex with this guy for nearly two years but I still see him as simply a sex partner. I love sex but I don't love him and I tell him the way I feel but he thinks I'm just confused or scared of what people would think. But in my eyes he's a excellent penis provider. Him nor any other man seems to catch ny eye. What's ya take on this?

[Browser]

My take from this is that either:

1. You're gender confused and need to either come to terms on your own or find a professional counselor.

OR

2. You're posting this for a reaction.

[dancingdoc2]

Originally Posted by bibifornow

I'll try to get right to the point. I enjoy being penertrated. But I am not atracted to men.

This answers your question. If you are not physically and emotionally attracted to a man, then you are not Gay. Are you Bi-curious? Probably.

...I experienced the pleasure of being penertrated. I really liked the way it felt.

Here is some enlightening reading:
Male / Female Sexual Behavior--If I like certain things does this mean I'm Gay?]

I started craving to be penertrated I used toys but it wasn't the same so I started having sex with men. Now I have been having sex with this guy for nearly two years but I still see him as simply a sex partner. I love sex but I don't love him and I tell him the way I feel but he thinks I'm just confused or scared of what people would think. But in my eyes he's a excellent penis provider. Him nor any other man seems to catch ny eye. What's ya take on this?

You have been honest with this person; if he doesn't believe you, he has the problem, not you. As long as the arrangement is satisfying to the two of you, drop the issue. If he brings it up, remind him politely that you've answered the question.

[bibifornow]

No I wasn't posting just get a response. I did get something inlightening out of this and that to know if I'm not phiscally or emotionally atracted to men I can hold on to my straight ID well at least BI

[dancingdoc2]

Have you read this article yet?

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

[conban]

I too have similar problem as bibifornow. Although I consider myself a bisexual but I really can't be sure because a lot of my feeling and preference doesn't fit the bi or the gay "nature". For 1 I am an effeminate male and I love being penetrated too. I'm 21 years old and discovered my odd sexual liking when I was 17. Since then I haven't have much luck with man, have sex with only 2 men so far and both are just "shemale thrill seeker" type. And I have no "love" feeling them, only like having sex with them.

[dancingdoc2]

> I consider myself a bisexual but I really can't be sure because a lot of my feeling and preference doesn't fit the bi or the gay "nature". For 1 I am an effeminate male and I love being penetrated too. I'm 21 years old and discovered my odd sexual liking when I was 17. Since then I haven't have much luck with man, have sex with only 2 men so far and both are just "shemale thrill seeker" type. And I have no "love" feeling them, only like having sex with them.

This seems clear to me. Wait until you are physically and emotionally attracted to a person and then decide whether you are Homosexual or Heterosexual. If Bi- do not be surprised if you can be attracted to people of either gender.

Why not get "real" and have a relationship with a man or a woman?

[conban]

I have. I told my girlfriends that I might be bisexual, they broke-off! So I thought I'll give guy a try but so far no luck. It appear to me that gay doesn't really like bi and I can't find any emotional feeling for guy, I mean I like their dick but not the man! That's why I'm into cross-dress (ladyboy) stuff just to get some anal pleasure, even that is hard to do.

[Rouge]

Bridging the gap between the homo and heterosexual worlds is extremely hard. I've found that Once a female friend hears that I'm bisexual, she'll be a little iffy until I explain the attraction to her "I'm not attracted to every woman out there; are you attracted to every guy?". The homosexual world doesn't generally appreciate bisexuals as we're often portrayed as confused, and without enough guts to come out and live homosexually. The heterosexual world assumes that we're gay. I'd suggest reading about bisexuality before identifying with it, as it's really an attraction based thing. I understand where you're coming from, though.

I myself am more attracted to women in general, but once in a while a guy will really catch my eye. My significant other is male, and we have an amazing relationship (completely satisfying, I might add, and he's very attractive to me), but we'll often watch lesbian porn, and have experimented with other women together.

Do you still enjoy penetrating women?

[dancingdoc2]

> Why not get "real" and have a relationship with a man or a woman?

What I meant by this is as with developing any friendship over a one night stand is to widen your circle of friends and develop individual friendships with others, male and female. There is a reason why "friends" comes before "lovers" in the saying friends and lovers.

Also, there are many more men and women available to befriend and perhaps have a sex life with than there are individuals in transition.

In between relationships, why not use a finger and/or dildo when masturbating? You can arouse the nerves outside and inside the anus, and also massage the prostate immediately before climaxing. Also, as explained in the article I mentioned, you can increase the intensity of your pleasure by squeezing one or both testicles immediately prior to climaxing.

Except for the intensity of arousal caused by the "chemistry" between partners, masturbation and toys that involve the anus, prostate, scrotum, and, testicles, can be more satisfying because we know what we like, when, and how best to accomplish it. Feedback is immediate and there is no training required as there is with any partner.

If you live in a large town or city, cultivate relationships, not in bars, but thru organizations. Attend groups or places where other people go who are interested in dating others, be it same sex or not. It seems to me from what I get reading between the lines that you are more interested in getting your rocks off than in improving the quality of how this is accomplished by cultivating a relationship with others, first.