i have a problem about my curiosity

[curiosity12]

ok so i have had a big crush on my friend for the longest time, i have told him how i felt but he said he doesn't like me in that way!!! but it feels like he does like me and i mean i don't know what 2 do

[rosebanks]

if he says he doesnt like you, move on. best advice ive gotton off of this site. loads of fish out there! go fish!

[dancingdoc2]

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You have received some sage advice, above.

> i have told him how i felt but he said he doesn't like me in that way!!!

Those are the breaks:
* Some people do not like each other
* Some people can take or leave one another
* One person can like another yet not the other way so much
* People can really like each other yet not be "in love"
* People can be head over heels in love with one another

> it feels like he does like me and i mean i don't know what 2 do

Yes, he does like you, he has said as much; however, he does not care for you in a more personal way enough to date you. Remain friends if it suits the two of you. As an example: I have two best friends, one male, one female. The man and I have been fast friends since the 8th grade; the woman and I have been very close friends for twenty years yet I do not care for her "in that way". Here is the hirachy:

* Acquaintences-- people you know casually yet do not have much interaction with
* Friends-- people you know casually and do interact with socially or in sports or hobby activities
* Close friends-- one or two friends who have been elevated to a very close relationship one one or more of the platforms, above.
* Best friend-- this is one person, male or female, with whom a very close bonding has taken place and in which you can confide your innermost thoughts, desires, and, wishes, without fear. This is also typically a person elevated from among your close friends.

NOTE: "Best" is an absolute term, therefore, you cannot have two or more "best friends" of the same gender.

Dating does not begin and end with the fist warm body who expresses an interest in us. Dating is all about learning what humanity has to offer us in potential mates and to do this we must go out with lots of people. Dating is all about learning about different personalities, characters, likes, dislikes, whims, goals, morals, ideals, quirks, interests, etc., et cetera, etc.

Dates can last through one dinner or a few, some will last much longer as you get to know each other better; a few last quite a long time, yet eventually all of these people will fall by the wayside as you narrow your search and as Mr./Ms. Right comes into your life. The more people you date the better able you will be to recognize when this person comes along; and, the better able you will be to know what you want in a potential partner.

Here is some reading material for you:

Exclusivity vs. Dating Around

DATING--Rules: how to and how not to

DATING--The Art and Science of Asking and Doing

I hope this is of help. Please do not hesitate to ask questions, after doing a bit of homework, above.