Need some guidance

[LV426]

So I have an issue and I'm looking for some input from other people on this situation.

I've become involved with a man (I'm female) that I care for very much and he has revealed to me that he likes to have outside involvement in the bedroom, specifically men. He's really into a woman having sex with another man and then performing orally on her after he's finished. He also enjoys oral sex with other men.

I'm pretty much a traditionalist when it comes to relationships. I believe in monogamy and I was raised that way. I do however have my own kink in that I like some BDSM but not sharing partners or anything like that. It's easier for me in a way that he likes men but I'm just not sure if I'm cut out for this type of relationship even though I really really care about this guy.

I've accepted that he's different but I don't know if I can bring another man into our bedroom and not later feel some rejection, resentment, or anger towards him. The other part is that I don't even really know how far he would go. I've had some questions I've asked him but then I hit a wall and I don't know what else to ask in order to find out what this means for us as a couple and for any relationship we might have.

I really need help on figuring out what to ask. I try to think of things but then my brain gets hung up and I stare at him or at the screen when I'm trying to write the questions and look like an idiot. Has anyone had this situation before, how was it handled, and what questions do I need to ask to see if I can do this.

I really do want this to work so any help you can share would be appreciated.
Thanks.

[Brandye]

Look around. There are many posts on threesomes. Some for it; some against it. As a general rule, we all have our limits and it looks like this may be hitting your outer limit.

Many of the threads here show an eagerness beforehand but some problem after the fact. The questions you need to ask are for and of yourself. Can you handle it? Do you want to handle it? Will you respect yourself in the morning?

Perhaps a counselor could you or you two figure this one out because it is a deep issue.

[seXkitteN1620]

i say if u can handle it and it pleases him.. then it should be fine.
but if u cant handle it tell him that and u two can try to work out a compromise.

[Brandye]

Compromise? I cannot imagine what that would be - Have the third lad call it in?