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[Ladies_Delight]

I been with my gril for 7yrs and her head game is not good at all. i thought i just didn't like getting head but i found out it was just her, i let other female go down on me and they was the bomb.And another thing i find myself not being sexually attracted to her anymore i guess thats why i cheat and the fact she is very bad in bed. i love her but i need good sex too. I have been faking in bed since we been together i know thats bad and i tried telling her but i can't cause i know it will hurt her feeling cause she really think she good in bed, maybe to other female she is but to me i rather watch an old movie then let her go down on me. I don't know what to do, i also found myself wanting to do a threesome. What should i do help a sista out.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Ladies_Delight

I been with my gril for 7yrs and her head game is not good at all. i thought i just didn't like getting head but i found out it was just her, i let other female go down on me and they was the bomb.And another thing i find myself not being sexually attracted to her anymore i guess thats why i cheat and the fact she is very bad in bed. i love her but i need good sex too. I have been faking in bed since we been together i know thats bad and i tried telling her but i can't cause i know it will hurt her feeling cause she really think she good in bed, maybe to other female she is but to me i rather watch an old movie then let her go down on me. I don't know what to do, i also found myself wanting to do a threesome. What should i do help a sista out.

Here is a novel thought; show her what turns you on. A good sexual relationship is formed through discussing each other's needs & wishes; as well as, guiding your partner to what you enjoy. Seeking sex outside of a relationship is no good substitute for lack of communication skills. This concept is not one that is only a matter for those who are homosexual or bisexual; even in a straight relationship, you need to convey to any partner what you like or dislike in a kind & gentle manner--outside the bedroom. You cannot expect another person to guess; meanwhile, complaining about disappointment [even if done secretly]. Fairness extends to all relationships and I do not see where you have been fair to her in anyway.

Please write a bit more properly so people can understand what you are saying, in order for others to be capable of providing you with an answer. Da is not a substitute for "the" and "sista" means what?.

[Ladies_Delight]

Thanks for your comment but i have tried telling her what i like it doesn't work she just not good in bed. I also think she not being fair to me because she is not trying to fulfill my need even though i have told her what i like i can't help if she not great in bed.

P.S I choose to write how i want, if you don't like it don't read it.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Ladies_Delight

Thanks for your comment but i have tried telling her what i like it doesn't work she just not good in bed. I also think she not being fair to me because she is not trying to fulfill my need even though i have told her what i like i can't help if she not great in bed.

P.S I choose to write how i want, if you don't like it don't read it.

Added to your comment, you send via PM, do not contact me via PM. Write in an articulate form so others can understand you. Your so called interpretation is far from anything I thought; your "race card" means nothing to me since I see all as being equal. If you wish an answer, write properly so others can understand.

If you cannot live with this & your g/f perhaps find another long term relationship. As with anyone sexual compatibility is a big matter.

[DVDBear]

Not sure why you posted under the homosexuality category. It doesn't sound like this is an orientation issue, but as Sara mentioned either a communication or compatibility issue.

But since you've posted here I assume your thinking might be that gay guys know more about giving head than women or something, which is a myth. Sure, we know what feels good as a man but sexual enjoyment is a person by person thing. What you like I might not like . . . variations in speed, sucking, touching and a million other things. And the only way to find that out is through a combination of picking up cues and asking what someone likes. If, after giving that your best shot you still can't get a satisfactory result you might have to chalk it up to sexual incompatibility and move on.

edit: oops, never mind. I just read your profile and see you're a lesbian. Can't help ya there.

[ST4C3Y]

You really need to learn how to type in proper english, your posts are difficult to read.