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[intheend1969]

My husband enjoys anal penetration, but won't share it with me. I have offered too wear a harness and dildo for him. No response. I asked if he would enjoy that. His response...maybe. I know he uses a dildo on himself, in private. I also know he enjoys watching shemale videos. Am I missing something here?

[Buck Naked]

IMO....Maybe = Yes please. Wear a strap on to bed and see what reaction you get. My wife and I do the role reversal thing from time to time and I know the first time was a little awkward. Just bite the bullet and get over the hump and it will be years of fun.

[Ducy]

He is probably just a bit uncomfortable with this all. I mean you guys still continue to enjoy sex right?? I mean it hasnt become boring or he hasnt begun to lose interest?

[DVDBear]

It sounds like gay panic to me. Buck Naked is probably right . . . . if you put him in that situation he'd probably love it. But asking for it or showing too much enthusiasm worries him that it'll put his masculinity in question.

[intheend1969]

Originally Posted by Ducy

He is probably just a bit uncomfortable with this all. I mean you guys still continue to enjoy sex right?? I mean it hasnt become boring or he hasnt begun to lose interest?

Enjoy sex? Boring sex? Yes and no. I have found reasons for the negative...3 kids = little privacy & no spontaneity, remodeling the house and working full-time = exhaustion, and, in all honesty, here's the BIGGY....I have never been able to experience a vaginal orgasm. I think the effort my hubby puts forth to attain this goal (never to fulfill it) disappoints him, as well as me. Does that put a new spin on things?

[opn2new]

Does he know that you know about his dildo and videos?
Is his dildo a life like and what size?
I really find it hard to believe that he does this and wouldn't want you to join in becuase I like to play with dildos also, and if my wife said "do you want me to do you with a strapon" the only problem I would have would be paying all the speeding tickets that I would get going to the local adult toy store.
I'm really curious to know how you know he does this?
There are some free video clips of woman doing men, maybe get some of them to help brake the ice.

[RichH]

he has to be comfortable with it b/f the 2 of you can be comfortable with it. me, personally, i don't get it but that's just me. maybe you could get him a "gift" leave it at a time when you'll be gone and you know he can have some "alone time" with it and see if he talks to you about what you did......

[constantlylearning]

Now that is a novel idea to say the least...........

[intheend1969]

Originally Posted by opn2new

Does he know that you know about his dildo and videos? .....Is his dildo a life like and what size?..... I'm really curious to know how you know he does this?

Yes

Very life like and quite a nice size (haven't actually measured it).

I found his dildo while putting wash away. As for the videos, I caught him watching them, in the middle of the night, on more than one occasion. I confronted him on both.

In the beginning, I was VERY VERY worried. But the more I read on the joy of anal penetration the better I feel.

[intheend1969]

Please see post entitled "My husband enjoys anal penetration, but won't share it with me" for an up-date entitled "Some Progress".