Found Boyfriends Transgender Porn

[kylie39]

Please Help I really could use some good advice. This morning after my boyfriend went to work I came across some of his porn videos. While most of them were the usual stuff I expected to find there were a couple mixed in that quite surprised me. There were three dvds that had trans gender people on the covers. Does this mean my boyfriend is gay? I really dont know how to take this. We have only been dating for three months now and everything is going really well. I was starting to fall in love with him, but this has really thrown me for a loop. Is it normal for straight men to watch that type of porn? PLEASE HELP! I dont know what to do. Should I break up with him?

[dancingdoc2]

Hello Kylie, welcome to the SI101 Board and its forums. I hope you enjoy participating.

My initial reaction is to "relax" and here is why: Fantasies are just that and even the most bizarre are not generally harmful if not acted upon.

This does not mean he is Gay. What it can mean is that he has a healthy curiosity and is looking for information. Talk to him and see what he has to say. This is not a matter of sexual orientation only one of male curiosity and of stimulation.

[cyclefreak]

For goodness sake, don't overreact. It certainly doesn't mean he is gay, just curious.

[Suki2007]

Porn is meant to arouse, and it does just that, in all its forms. One thing may not do it for one person, but do it for another. I personally would just take it as something that he has either interest or curiousity in, but it doesn't necessarily mean anything in regards to your relationship. Best advice I have is to talk to him about it. Just remember that he is entitled to whatever likes or dislikes that he has and try to be non judgemental and certainly do not ask him if he is gay.

[shaved bi]

It could mean that he is bisexual as I am.

[berserker]

Originally Posted by shaved bi

It could mean that he is bisexual as I am.

Or it could mean he was looking for something a little different. Porn like anything else can get old. Imagine watching the same five episodes of the same five shows every night.

Just my .02

[Alias]

Does it really matter to you that much if he gets turned on from it? People get turned on by all sorts of wacky things, a few ladies with penis' shouldnt bother you. Im sure their are secrets you have that you wouldnt appreciate him digging up. I am a guy and my girlfriend stimulates me analy somtimes and we are both comfortable with it and she certainly does not think i am gay. Even if he is Bi-sexual, dont let it get to you, it is just porn, hes doing it to help him cum.

[Buck Naked]

Let's face facts, straight porn becomes pretty predictable. Having something outside the "norm" is not that wierd. Although I don't have any transgender porn, I do have bisexual, lesbian (real lesbian, not the stuff made for guys), gay, and many others videos that are specialized. I would never label anyone due to their porn collection.

[downunderkiwi]

Many senarios come from this...to find a chick has a dick is a AWESOME sight to some but why do u have to be gay to have this thought....probably wants to drop to his knees and...well u know the rest...join him!search out a trans girl for experimenting.....broaden your horizons!
watch the DVDs with him..just think of the romp after!

[aamilne]

I know this is a late comment. Also late at night, in London. Well...u might want to consider whether this spectrum of gay-straight-bi, is useful or even true. And ponder the richness of sexual and affectional orientation. Homework would be to read up on the (sadly now dead) Dr Fritz Klein's work - the Klein Grid. As always, wiki to the rescue. Check out: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Klein_S...ientation_Grid
and http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Affectional_orientation.

'Cause, and I'll lay my cards (not my arse) on the table, speaking for myself (a) the idea of sexual orientations or identity based on the physiological sex type of you and you actual/imagined lovers is pointless. And (b) this whole dull business of dividing people into two groups at the physiological or pyschological levels, be they male/female, feminine/masculine, is obselete.

Don't know how you and your lover/friend worked it out, but if u didn't touch on the issue, why not try this for a dinner table opener. "Hey, I found some erotic stuff on your PC. Some might call it trans, but, heck, I'm so bored of this sexual dimorphism shtick. Do u think the world would be better if we didn't segregate people into women and men?"