Need Bi-curious advice!

[underpressure]

I am early 30's male.

I am married but have always had an attraction to a friend of mine (male). I have never acted on it but the "curiosity" is getting stronger again.

My question is: should i approach my friend about this, or should I try appease my curiosity elsewhere..like with a stranger?

I'm basically looking at a one time deal. I would just like to try playing for the other team. I love my wife, and have kids...not looking to wreck my family..just thinking I need to scratch this itch.

[dancingdoc2]

This is not the first time this question has been asked. My reply to you as with the others is to ask you to turn this around and substitute "my wife" for "I". Unless you have an unusually relaxed marriage and relationship I can pretty much guarantee that you'd be all over your wife and at the same time emotionally devastated. Women know. Don't kid yourself. I suggest one of two courses of action. #1. End the marriage. #2. Keep your curiosity strictly as a fantasy. A possible third alternative might be to discuss an open marriage.


Whether you do this once to satisfy your curiosity and an "itch" or want to stray on her more than once, you are going against all you said and promised on your wedding day. So, that said, what is your decision?

[sera300]

I agree 100% w/doc. You have to realize what impact any action will have on your wife and family....and do the right thing. The worse thing a spouse could do to me was risk my health for adventure or to scratch an itch...if I only had been given an option. Seriously, while in the current situation, your feelings are insignificant until you either leave or tell her first--let her make an informed choice.

[constantlylearning]

I could not agree more with Ms. Sera and Doc more. To possibly endanger someone
else for a quick thrill is simply not rational or in keeping with being a responsible
person. Think about the consequences down the road instead a few moments
associated with a "thrill." This is simply not cool PERIOD.

[underpressure]

You guys/gals are right...thanks for the wake up call!

[sera300]

Originally Posted by underpressure

You guys/gals are right...thanks for the wake up call!

Welcome...always put her first...she has a right to know since its her life too. As much as you may be curious, you can destroy yours, hers, and all others lives--especially your children's.

[inked_up_veteran]

If its just the sensation of anal sex that is curious to you, why not talk to your wife about using a strap-on on you. You can lead up to that, trying using a finger while shes giving you oral...then go from there.

[dancingdoc2]

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

[Suki2007]

I would have a serious discussion about it with your wife and just let her know that it is something you have been curious about for a long time. Let her know what you have told us, that you in no way want to leave her or do anything to damage your relationship or the life you two have, but that it is something you would like to try. Let her know that you understand either way, but you just wanted to share that with her and let her know what you have been feeling.