Is my boyfriend bi? How do I know?

[texasyogachick]

Hi, I am new here and trying to figure something out, I hope it's not a stupid question. I've been with my boyfriend a little over a year, and while I'm adventurous and certainly no prude, some things have me questioning him. He has always talked about various experiences he's had - not gay sex experiences but he has a lot of gay friends and told me once about using a penis pump on himself in a car with a bunch of gay men.

This never made me think anything weird until recently I know he has been communicating with people online, and posted on his myspace page that he's single and looking for "dating and relationships." Don't worry I do not plan to stay with him. But this has worried me, because about the same time I dropped something off at his house when he was not there (he asked me to) and next to his bed were a pair of handcuffs (which we have NEVER used!) and some weird thing that I don't know what it was. Maybe it wasn't a sex toy, it was hard plastic and completely cylinder, not soft or curved or shaped or anything. Just a long, beige plastic cylinder that plugged in. I've never seen a sex toy either that plugged in, but just wondering.

Does anyone think he might be bisexual? Obviously I think he's messing around with someone to some extent and I have no plans of staying with him. As far as I'm concerned we're over. But I am concerned about myself now that I've found these things.

Any input or advice? I really don't want to confront him or honestly, even talk to him.

[DVDBear]

The only thing you have to worry about is if you had unsafe sex with him. That would be a concern whether he was bi or not. Don't fall into thinking "as long as someone's straight I don't need a condom because only gay or bi guys have STDs" or you're gonna be heading into a world of hurt. As you've already deduced from his MySpace page he intends to be promiscious, regardless of his orientation.

If you had unprotected sex with him it would be in your best interest to get tested.

[NoLoveAtHome]

just beat around the bush a little. reveal a little about yourself, and then hint to him about it...if you don't want to come straight out and ask him. I for one, am in a reversed situation, I have some bi fantasies, but don't really wanna come out and say it. I think that most guys, if bi or curious, in a m/f relationship are a little reluctant to come out and say so, especially if they think you might be weirded out.

[jeff4747]

I was seeing a guy who kept saying he is "bi". He has a girlfriend and has decided to go the straight way. Problem is he said he thinks of me all the time and the passion between us is unbeatable. He told me it can't compare to the GF. Your BF is gay or bi. I have seen enough to know. I live in Utah so that's even harder. I am 47 and "Junior" is 28. Go figure huh.
My advice; Let this guy go. Find a man that will love and respect you and be true only to you. You are worth it...

[Mr. Saint]

Why does it really matter if he is bi or strait? It obviously matters if he is messing around behind your back because he may be exposing you to STD, but does the gender make any difference. I am a somewhat bisexual guy, attracted to men but not sleeping with them now, and my girl friend knows about it and she really could care less.

[Ducy]

I love that this thread is over a year old and being answered now lol

[Mr. Saint]

I did not even notice that, it just appeared in the new post section, so I answered.