Having sex with a woman

[Ducy]

No this isnt another thread asking about lesbian feelings or urges. For any gay man out there...or straight for that matter. Do you find pleasure in having sex with a women? I mean I never personally have enjoyed it. Like I have said in a million posts it was never it was always like I wanted to but then it would happen and it wouldnt feel good. In fact out of the 8 time me and my ex had sex, I never finished...even when I was close. And last night same thing with a girl I had met at a party...she was very beautiful but I just couldnt finish cuz it wasnt very good, and Ive been secodn guessing myself since my girlfriend came out, since she had said sex was always a bit awkward to her...and i kinda find it weird too.

Sorry this post is probably uber confusing but its 6 in the morning and I havent really slept well since last night happened...

[Brandye]

Ducy,

Clear your head, write out your question, check it and then ask something understandable.

[Ducy]

whew...ok...Lately I have started to question myself again, and last night I hooked up with this girl, and we had sex...I was pretty close when we started, but by the end it was just lame...I wound up just pulling out, getting dressed and leaving. I was drunk or anything, and the girl was very attractive, but just like with my ex, the sex never felt good.

So For people out there who are gay, and have had sex with women (whether curious or thought they were straight) did you enjoy it? like was it very pleasurable or was it like...bleh?

[curious_woman]

Sex was bleh before my fiancee. Making out, fingering, everything was okay but not THAT good. The only "sex" I enjoyed was masturbating. Then my fiancee gave me the time of my life, and I think its because 1. he's experienced and knows what hes doing and 2. I love him, and we have an emotional connection as well as HUGE physical chemistry (I can get wet just looking at him, and I've made him hard simply by walking by).

Maybe you just haven't met the right person?

[sera300]

Being comfortable with the person is key. So, you tried. Keep at it. Separate emotions & sex.