Not sure how to put it...uh, pan-curious?

[DVDBear]

Labels, all labels do more harm than good. People chase their own tails endlessly trying to pigeon hole what they are, where they fit, blah blah blah. Why? I can understand the desire for people to expand the nuance past "A, B & C" categories. I'm not sure "pan sexuality" does that very well, but there's certainly room for exploration beyond a clinical "You're gay / straight / bi" finality. Had one fleeting moment of desire with a member of your own sex but never again? Sorry, matie - that makes you bi, end of story. Had nothing but same sex liaisons in your youth but then found a woman you fell in love with, got married and never had any real desire to have another gay dalliance? Yup, bi . . . but now leading a heterosexual existence. From a definition standpoint it's correct, but it doesn't mean that's who you are. I don't know how many times I've heard people who've had one same sex experience give the "Well technically I'm bi, but I'd never do it again" line. They almost wince when they come to the "bi" part. Obviously they don't identify with the common perception of that term but feel they have to own it.

The problems aren't so much the labels, but the importance people put in them. If "Pan Sexual" seems truer and speaks to you, Go fer it. Define yourself . . . . don't let the labels (or other people) do it for you.