Mixed Couple and Sexuality.

[Ducy]

Okay so this is a two part thread, first off I was talking to my girl yesterday. (not my girlfriend anymore, just my girl....if that makes sense lol) anyways she was just talking and out of the blue she says, If I was gay, would you still be able to be with me?

Needless to say this confused me, and then I realized she was asking if I would still like to date her, and be with her. I just said IDK, because to be honest, I wouldn't mind, but Im not sure if it would work.

My uncle was gay, and married a woman whom he loved....as more than a friend. They were happy, affectionate, and even though sexually they were not compatible, they were loyal as well.

I mean if some way, I could not care about having sex, would it be possible to be in a loving caring relationship...or more...with her? Because she believes orientation is about sex, and I believe that as well since my uncle married a woman, but at the same time Im bamboozled...


Second. For any lesbians out there...not bi's, since you are attracted to both genders....Stupid question, but I have to ask. Do you enjoy sex with guys? I mean I guess what Im trying to say is that my girl doesnt care for fooling around. Fingering, oral etc. She actually prefers and likes having sex with me. If we do fool around she gets off the most from me rubbing my penis against her clit, and the lips of her vagina.

And basically, can you get turned on from a guy? Either from visual stimulation or getting turned on by turning him on? Because my girl gets wet if she makes me hard, and if I masturbate in front of her, she becomes the horniest thing on the planet. (even though she doesnt like me to because it brings back some memories)

Any help would be awesome, and please dont say just get over her move on etc....I am not doing this to be with her, (well I guess the first part kinda) but this second part is more to help her in sorting it out.

[sera300]

Ducy...I cannot answer much for you. Homosexuals have "degrees" some wish to try, some cannot even stand the thought. If one of my gay male guy friends saw a piece of P**** they would run. Some may not.

Regardless of that rant...Would you just go on with you life and see where you end up??? Stop obsessing of theoretical situations. If you end up there only you will know the answer. You need to just get out....

[Ducy]

Sera sera sera...Im just asking gosh...I've given up...Im tired of tears and crap, so Ive given up...I just hang out with a bunch of friends now, I do talk to my ex, because we still have a lot of fun and stuff...We do make great friends, so the dating would only be a bonus. I have started the moving on process, by making conversation with girls that I find cute...mostly from work...luckily sales allows you to talk to alot of people ...just havent gotten comfortable with the idea of dating yet...

[sera300]

I hear a glimmer of hope/thought in your post of; "what if?". You are still on the fence and being her emotional "help me figure this out for me"....that's all I am saying. Cut the ties, be a friend circumvent her needy behavior, and DATE MANY WOMEN!

[oedipussy]

Why would a straight man want to be with a gay woman? Come on, Ducy, think about this... Why short-change yourself? Both of you deserve better than that.