Close girlfriends.

[Sweet091]

Right this is not the first time this has happened but i have fantasies about doing things with my best friend (we are both 15 year old females) I am NOT bi because i do NOT like other girls and i am attracted to guys. I think i am just like this because we are so close. Anyway , this has happened a few times before and again today where we have been lying in my bed and she gets my hand and places it on her breasts. She also 'feels me up' and kisses me (not make out just kiss) I know this is weird because i always fantasise about doing this and when i get my chance i totally freeze and tense up. I am seeing her again tomorrow so when it happens i actually want to do something but how do i go about doing it? I have never done anything with a guy before so i don't really know how to do stuff. Shall i just make out and start feeling her down there? Please help ASAP. X

[dancingdoc2]

> i actually want to do something but how do i go about doing it? I have never done anything with a guy before so i don't really know how to do stuff. Shall i just make out and start feeling her down there? Please help ASAP.

Hello, and welcome to the SI101 Board and Forums. When you logged on, you should have seen at the top of your screen a link to the Index. This document contains links to articles for the most asked about topics and concerns.

We do not mind answering questions, however, we do ask that posters, new and old do some research before posting in order to save time and to eliminate the time and effort of writing duplicate replies.

Yes, you bet! Begin by calling upon the basics: Necking, Petting, Heaving Petting, and at some point and time--Foreplay when the two of you are ready. These activities are designed in part to warm the two of you up and are necessary to a person's arousal, unless you are only interested in the proverbial "Quickie".

Here are some articles you should read. Just adapt the information for the two of you:



Chapter One in a series (Scroll down to read each chapter along with readers' comments):
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping

Chapter Three:
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS/ and the gentle art of Making Out, FIRST

Frequently, and depending upon the nature of a poster's question, Doc recommends the person read Chapter Three, first, and Chapter One, second.

Body Worship How-To by EEK

How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?

You can read all of this article; however, please pay particular attention to the sections relating to women.

All of these articles should provide more than enough information to get you started. If after reading them, please feel free to ask if you have additional questions or concerns. (Just look around, first, please. Read the Board Notice section, also.)

[BTDTWoman]

I think the poster wants permission to be sexually active with aother girl despite not feeling a strong attraction to her and being inexperienced

So long as you are willing and able to be honest with her about what you want and how you feel about her, do whatever feels good and right to both of you. You are only 15; you are not supposed to be an expert at having sex with boys or girls.

If you want to do the things you wrote about because it arouses you and feels good, do it. Don't do anything that feels creepy or weird. You can stop at any point if it isn't working for you.

Be realistic about the possibility that she may tell other friends about it and you may get labled in a way that you don't want, at least not right now. Teens tend to spend a lot of energy talking about and judging other teens' sexual behavior.

[Brandye]

This desire or curiousity and its following sexual behaviour is much more common than most people realize. Many women about your age have these urges. For some it is a path to heterosexuality and for some it is the beginning of a bi-sexual life-style. What you do does not determine the rest of your life.

It has been said that "men tolerate intimacy for sex and women tolerate sex for intimacy." This is greatly exaggerated in both directions but, among teens, it is almost true. Women do have an intuitive ability to please one another and understand one another. Most teens who do actually go on to being wives, moothers and fitting most female roles in life.

I was exactly your age , and sexually active with my b/f, when a g/f and I discovered what you are discovering. The rest of our teen years we sometimes dated boys but we were our own primary sexual relationship. We understood that not every kiss had to lead to orgasm and we did not have to worry when our periods were two days late. There were many advantages and our parents did not even object to our spending time together.

She went on to marriiage and a child; I, to a few heterosexual relationships. Many years later we are back together both living happily.

I certainly meet the definition of bi-sexual. That does not detract from mainly being a woman.